Social relationships are always complicated, both for men and women Although we are similar in many ways, we are also very different in others.
In the particular case of relating to the opposite gender, men tend to be more direct. That is why it is common that during the initial stages of getting to know each other and starting something similar to a dating relationship, they go a little faster than they do.
But in the same way that it is common for men to initiate romantic relationships in a relatively direct way, it is also common for them to end the relationship in a characteristic, direct way. Let’s see what to do when a man walks away leaving behind a stagnant or directly broken, blocked relationship.
Let’s look at some coping tools in this situation, to prevent it from affecting your mood too much and raise additional problems.
1. Evaluate the reasons: do not make unfounded assumptions
When suddenly the subject has stopped being close, no longer writes, does not respond, does not call… the situation can lead to a series of assumptions that respond more to our emotionality than anything else.
The best thing is to maintain serenity and not fall into extreme hypotheses When in doubt, what we should do is look for a clear answer from this person, approach him with the firm conviction of obtaining an accurate answer to the situation.
If this is not possible, then it is time to respect the other person’s apparent motives, without assuming, and respect distance. Remember that no one is essential for happiness
2. Be firm in your decisions: opportunities have a limit
In some cases, especially when there is a component of emotional attachment, it is common that you do not want to accept that the subject has moved away, and you are not consistent in your decisions to move away as well.
For example, if you have decided that the healthiest thing for you is not to give more than you receive and not to pursue this man in your life, you should carry it out.
The more consistent you are and the more time passes without you resuming contact with that person, the closer you will be to overcoming it, which is ideal. It is never good to leave our peace of mind in the hands of another person. If you depend too much on someone, it is an issue that you must work on.
3. Give yourself priority: your value as a person is non-negotiable
After the forced separation, that is, when they have distanced themselves from us without giving us any explanation that helps us understand what has happened, It is quite common to tend to blame ourselves, thinking that the reason is because of our defects These thoughts are a mistake.
Attributing the cause of the distance to a possible “defect” of ours indicates that we are not giving ourselves adequate value as people.
We cannot justify distance from someone with the pretext that we are not good enough for them. It is a harmful thought that we must recognize and change immediately.
4. Avoid forced replacements: One nail does not remove another nail
Persistently trying to find another person with whom you can forget the one who is gone will not do you any good. In fact, You will only manage to reduce your autonomy, which is counterproductive for you The most advisable thing is to take some time to be alone.
Find activities where you can distract yourself from forced social contact and focus more on yourself. In addition, this way you can meet people who have interests in common with you, and establish a friendship that is not based on commitment, but on sharing the enjoyment of a common hobby.
5. Do not generalize: all men are not equal
Emotions sometimes lead us to exaggerated or generalized thinking. When a man walks away without fully clarifying his motives, then unconscious defense mechanisms emerge that play some tricks on us… For example, subjectively rationalizing that all men are equal, and that if one abandoned you, all of them will. .
Gender does not imply the way of understanding relationships these beliefs are only myths and ancient paradigms that we must leave behind.
The more rational we are and accept that things will not always turn out the way we want, the more we will stop looking for answers outside, and find them within ourselves.
6. Closing cycles: letting go to be part of personal growth
When a stage has already completed its cycle, we must accept this situation and let go of what we once wanted. Let go of what accompanied us for a time to be able to move forward and meet new people, live new experiences. Clinging to a person is not healthy and even less so when it has voluntarily distanced itself from us.
Closing a cycle implies understanding that there have been good moments and bad moments, and that now all of this is part of our learning as a person, which allows us to mature emotionally so that we can then live new experiences from a new perspective.
