When a period of time has passed in a relationship, the members who form it have forgotten why they joined together, why at this moment in their life they are still together.
I remember that at some point someone I trusted told me that from time to time couples should stop think and reflect Why are they still together? At the time it seemed to me that that message did not suit me. But today, after ten years with my girl, it came to me.
When I met Claudia, she seemed like the most wonderful woman in the world, and the funniest. The time we spent together passed between laughter and mutual jokes. I had the feeling that with her, everything was easy. I could be me without her making a face at me or looking at me strangely. My thoughts revolved around her. Ten years ago today we started dating. I had intended to celebrate with her. Maybe a dinner at some cool restaurant, then a movie or a few drinks to celebrate. But she told me no. We better leave it for Saturday when he will have rested. This answer caught me a little off, I didn’t expect him to say no. I haven’t known how to react.
It is true that we have hardly seen each other for a long time, we speak little, and our relationship is practically over the phone. I am aware that something is happening to us, but I have been impressed by your refusal. Talking to one of my friends, he recommended an exercise to try to discover what was happening to us She had nothing to lose by trying. So I went to the office, grabbed a notebook and a pen, and started to write down everything that still unites me with Claudia.
Wow, it’s not as easy as it seems. I am clear that I love her Every morning when I get up I always look at her without her noticing it. I love seeing her sleep next to me. Feel her calm breathing. Knowing that she is still there, next to me. But I guess there should be more things. We’ll both have something more to carry all this time.
Hear your laugh I love hearing her laugh. She is able to laugh at practically anything. No matter how small it is. Plus she’s very contagious, so I almost always end up laughing with her. At that moment, I fall in love with her again.
3. See if you have good communication
We can spend hours talking about any topic Whenever something happens to us, whether good or bad, the first thing we do is call to tell the other person. Personally, I like to ask him for advice when I have to make a decision. Even with questions about my work. He has an immense ability to analyze situations and see possible options to solve them.
4. See your positive points
Don’t forget to write down, its spontaneity I know I’ve complained before that he said no to going out tonight. But this is not like her. Every time I have proposed something to her she has said yes. In addition, at every moment we come up with plans and activities quickly and we carry them out. Life next to her never loses its surprise.
I’m starting to like this thing about analyzing what unites me with my girl. Maybe it wouldn’t be bad if we did it together. It is surely much easier and more enriching for the relationship. I can bring it up tonight at home.
I already have the plan for today. When she arrives I’m going to prepare dinner, something that she really likes. I’ll open a bottle of wine. And then with dessert we can do this exercise. It surely helps us realize what is happening to us now and solve any problems we have had. I promise not to let another ten years pass to dedicate some time to know what continues to unite me to my girl
