When Transgression Is The Way: The Route To Well-being
We are told all the time that we should follow our dreams. And paradoxically, the word “duty” is hidden in the same sentence.
A dream is something private that only each of us creates according to desires, hopes, models and fantasies that we have kept and put together since childhood. Some are more conventional than others: get married, study, or achieve a career (if it can be successful, the better). Are those only the dreams, the projects or the desires to achieve in life?
Longing is the internal desire to get something. In its etymology, longing implies “breathing with difficulty.”
It can be thought that a desire or desire is something that, during the process of its fulfillment, prevents us from breathing calmly. A longing under these terms is that which makes us suffer, that It presents us with a difficulty to overcome I disagree with the first part, and this is what the article is about.
Many times we face dreams that are not our own, or that simply have a part of them colored by “what should be”, by what over time we expect them to be, and not so much by what we really want. To yearn for something is to encourage much more than just getting results
Life presents us with situations that do not come easy to us. and those, above all, are those that surround what we call desires. As if simple and simple desires or achievements did not have the same value as costly and sacrificial ones. “Dreams are achieved with suffering and a lot of effort,” says popular wisdom.
Give substance to this concept that flows comfortably through our veins, the product of cultural teachings innocently transmitted from one’s own family, from society, containing in its essence the value of sacrifice, should not be considered the result of a wish
A constant process
Desires are wonderful entities, and I say this because they have weight and corporeality within us. Living with desires guarantees us living and existence. When we lose the desire for something, for someone and consequently for ourselves, life recedes to give way to darkness and fear. It makes us small and helpless
Therefore, it is not about having only great desires, but several and continuous ones. I wish it to be a good day, to find the love I am looking for, to be able to wake up every morning wishing for something more, or to achieve that job that I love so much, and continue wishing. Wanting to be a good leader, understanding my team with empathy and being able to transmit and dissolve those unnecessary sacrifices. Those are all desires, and they are not measurable.
This is why we must be transgressors, but not in the adolescent way where I take risks for ideals without measuring the consequences; we must be adult transgressors, going outside the established , but evaluating the paths and consequences of our actions. A dream without a method is a dangerous chimera.
what you dream They imply strength and passion, but not sacrifice If we think about it from this angle, the obstacle that comes our way will only be one of many, and it will be our choice to continue or not. It is in that decision where sacrifice is drowned and we become addicted to dreaming and pursuing our ideals.
The importance of knowing how to deviate from the established path
Let us be transgressors of the comfort zone, of the norms that do not correspond to us, of the values that others taught us, and let us analyze what we really want, not to show off, or to have the fleeting and volatile recognition of the outside.
Let’s focus on every little dream that makes us happy Let us vindicate the value of seeing our children grow up on the path of freedom of internal choice, let us see them deciding their future and not being thrown into it. Let’s remember the full feeling of when we were able to say what cost us so much. Let’s breathe slowly, when we remember that job change that no one recommended.
When we see that maturity and internal well-being depend on us, on being adult transgressors and trained to be happy, that it is about learning to prioritize, we will undoubtedly discover that happiness is closer than we think
Believe in every small achievement, do not think of it as a sacrifice and do not focus on what it costs you to travel that path, see it as steps that bring you closer to where you want to go or what you want to achieve; Don’t focus on the result, look at the time and dedication you offer to your dream , and if it doesn’t turn out as you expected, understand that there is no single way to achieve it. Be plastic, flexible to the result. Courage is found in you, there is one of the secret forms of true well-being.
