Body language is very expressive and communicative at the level of love in the relationship. Physical distance can be related to emotional distance. Sometimes, without realizing it, the couple’s sexual desire decreases and that makes you feel less desired. In everyday life there are many factors that can dampen passion.
If you are going through a situation of this type, in this PsychologyFor article, we answer the following question: Why doesn’t my partner touch me? We help you find the answer to this and other related questions such as your partner’s lack of sexual desire or the rejection he or she shows you in private.
Why doesn’t my husband touch me? Below, we show you possible reasons why your partner does not seek you sexually.
Stress: The modern pace of life, marked by constant commitments and the urgency of the rush that marks the pace of work and other commitments, can have an effect on the mood of the person affected. Stress can activate personal apathy Stress influences desire, since when a person goes through a situation of these characteristics they have a reductionist view of reality. His thoughts are focused mainly on the reason for the concern that affects him or the issue that he wants to resolve. He focuses all of his energy on that goal.
Weight of routine in the relationship: Monotony can cause a lot of suffering on a psychological level, routine can kill passion in a couple if the protagonists do not take the initiative to integrate the surprise factor into love.
Low selfsteem For example, a person who has a physical complex that conditions their own self-concept projects themselves as unattractive to others. That is, she projects her own insecurity through body language.
Infidelity: If your partner does not touch you and does not look for you sexually, it can also show a situation of these characteristics. However, for this to be the cause of the situation, this indication must be accompanied by other components. For example, changes in habits and prolonged absences without a logical and credible justification. It may happen that the person has not materialized the infidelity, but is in love with a third person and has lost interest in their partner.
Relationship crisis and communication problems: A crisis produces suffering because the couple feels the uncertainty of not knowing how the love story will evolve. Body and mind constantly interact, also in love. In this way, the body can somatize the blockages, contradictory feelings and emotional knots of a situation that produces psychological weight. Just as a couple communicates their love naturally through the power of a caress, on the contrary, those who have an emotional distance due to a disagreement may feel that there is a barrier between them that generates distance. And this lack of physical contact is a reflection of that distance.
Side effect of a medical treatment: Health also influences sexual desire and, in this case, the lack of desire transcends one’s own will. For example, this can happen if the person suffers from severe depression. In this case, it is quite possible that the expert himself will inform the patient about the side effects of his illness.
keep a secret: a secret he wants to tell you but doesn’t know how to do it. This produces psychological tension and constant contradiction. For example, perhaps you consider that the relationship between you has already ended, but you do not dare to materialize the step of making the decision.
Fear of intimacy: It is possible that your partner rejects you sexually as a result of a previous negative experience that has caused frustration.
What happens when my partner doesn’t want to make love
We have talked about the causes or factors that may influence your partner not to seek you out sexually. But how does the lack of sex affect the couple? Although it is an aspect that depends on each couple, in general terms, sexual problems in a couple can have different consequences:
emotional instability and susceptibility.
Lack of sleep: Concern about a couple’s lack of intimacy can lead to a decrease in sleep quality. In this article, you will see what to do when you can’t sleep.
Feeling of loneliness: Maybe you feel that your partner is not paying attention to you and that makes you feel alone.
Humor changes anxiety or stress.
Mental and physical fatigue: feeling of exhaustion. In this article, we tell you what mental fatigue is and how to combat it.
What to do when my partner doesn’t touch me
If the current situation is “my boyfriend doesn’t touch me” or “my husband no longer touches me”, we will tell you what to do in these situations. Depending on the reason why your partner does not touch you, the measures to take to overcome this situation will be one or another. Next, we propose solutions for the lack of desire in a couple:
Identify the cause why your partner doesn’t touch you or seek you out sexually. For example, the situation is different when it is motivated by stress or anxiety, than when this circumstance is caused by infidelity, since the cause also produces consequences that affect the couple in one way or another. In this article, you will see how to reduce stress. try talk to your partner in a tone of confidence.
If you consider that you both need help to redirect the situation, you can propose seek professional help However, for this step to be truly effective, it is essential that you both agree to take the step, since no one can help someone who does not want to receive this help.
Encourage your introspection regarding the situation. You cannot know the answers that only your partner can give you definitively. However, you can reflect on the situation in the way you have experienced it. For example, when did the change occur between you? Try to mentally travel back to that moment to assess different factors that could have affected the relationship.
In this article, we tell you how to improve decreased sexual desire and, in the following video, you will find more information about “why my partner doesn’t want to have sex with me” and tips to understand your partner when he doesn’t want to have sex with you.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Donahey, K.M., & Carroll, R.A. (1993). Gender differences in factors associated with hypoactive sexual desire. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 19(1), 25-40.
I’m Emily Williams Jones, a psychologist specializing in mental health with a focus on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness. With a Ph.D. in psychology, my career has spanned research, clinical practice and private counseling. I’m dedicated to helping individuals overcome anxiety, depression and trauma by offering a personalized, evidence-based approach that combines the latest research with compassionate care.
