We don’t like being deceived or betrayed, especially with lies. When someone lets us down in this way we feel sad and disappointed.
Do you have doubts about whether your partner is being unfaithful to you? Don’t you know if he’s cheating on you? Many couples in some circumstances ask themselves these questions, because they do not understand what can motivate the other person to cheat on them. According to research from the Faculty of Psychology of the National Autonomous University of Mexico: men are unfaithful due to the need to have new adventures, while women are unfaithful due to lack of communication.
In psychology we talk on numerous occasions about attachment and in fact, what many do not know is “insecure attachment” where couples usually resort to infidelity as we see in research from the University of Florida and the attachment theory of “ Bowlby John.”
What is insecure attachment and what consequences does it have?
Insecure attachment is one that some people have experienced during their childhood where the parents have responded to some of the child’s demands, such as providing comfort in some situations, but in other similar situations, the opposite has been done. A clear example could be the loss of parents, where the child may feel trauma due to the event and the way in which he or she has been treated, whether due to abandonment, lack of understanding, etc.
This means that a series of long-term consequences may arise, such as:
Low self-esteem.
Insecurities.
Distrust.
Emotional instability.
Now you may wonder: What does it have to do with infidelity? The truth is that having low self-esteem influences that in some way they always seek to reinforce it and fill the emotional voids they have. It is also true that in many cases unfaithful people come from complete homes.
What 5 signs can we detect of an unfaithful personality?
The price of power : Have you ever wondered why many well-known couples who seem to have it all are unfaithful? Power ends up corrupting and making us want to possess much more, generating attraction for those things we do not have. Perhaps the clearest examples we can give you are: athletes, actors, millionaires, presidents.
The adrenaline of risk : Those adventurous people who like risk because of the adrenaline it brings are more prone to infidelity.
Tendency towards psychopathy: We are not referring to serial killers with this, but to people who have no empathy and who promise that the relationship is something sacred although over time they show you that this is not the case. They can even become emotional manipulators.
Physical appearance : Above all, people who have a high economic level are influenced by: physical appearance, how well-groomed you are, physical treatments and even aesthetic operations. In this case we are not saying that all people with a high economic level are like this, but it is true that the first thing that comes to our eyes is their physical appearance. Therefore, it is more likely with people who are more likely to take care of themselves.
sexual desire : Although it is often said that men always want to have sex, the truth is that this depends on the amount of testosterone they have. The higher the libido, the higher it will be. The problem appears when there is some sexual conflict between the couple and it is not talked about, solutions are not sought, or new desires are not thought of so that sexual relations are satisfactory.
Remember that each couple and each person is different, therefore it does not have to be your case. If you think you are in the situation, start by communicating with your partner and seek help from a psychology professional who can guide you at the moment and the experiences you find yourself in.
