Self-esteem is increasingly identified as a fundamental pillar at the base of psychological balance and adequate emotional management so that it has an impact on people’s well-being and an appropriate way of being, being or feeling.
There are different ways to love ourselves little or almost nothing and not make it seem like it When we attribute events to bad luck or circumstances, for example. The truth is that, sometimes, we do not do things for ourselves, to take care of ourselves, to feel good, to love ourselves; and that can become a way of destroying us, of ruining us a little more as people.
There are many ways to destroy ourselves, to harm ourselves without it being considered part of a pathology, but being something negative and dangerous. Let’s review some ideas that have to do with self-esteem.
1. Learn to accept ourselves
We are unique and unrepeatable beings and we are constantly evolving and changing Sometimes, we are left with distorted images of ourselves and do not incorporate acceptance and recognition into the changes we are achieving. Nor do we accept what we don’t like as the first step to modify it.
2. Try to be critical to the right extent
Some people are very harsh with self-criticism, and that seriously damages their self-esteem. They martyr themselves for the decisions made, they blame themselves for the unforeseen consequences and they continue to hold these types of thoughts long enough for it to be unbearable.
Finding balance when making judgments about one’s own behavior is a skill that must be worked on and developed.
3. Perform frequent self-care actions
It is important to do so by separating self-care from the concept of selfishness clearly frowned upon and sometimes confused with egocentrism.
Being selfish is not always bad and taking care of ourselves is essential, since, if each of us does not do it, we expect others to do it, without knowing exactly when we need it most. We are talking about simple things that can be made as sophisticated as necessary: a calm and unhurried breakfast, a time of reading, a shower that is not against the clock or a walk with enough time, perhaps a relaxed chat or whatever you know. May it feel wonderful to you.
4. Promote actions to achieve our vital objectives
Knowing what we want to achieve at each stage of life and making an action plan to achieve it can be something simple or very complex, but It requires stopping to think about it, being responsible in the intermediate steps and chaining actions If that’s what you want to achieve, go for it, don’t expect it to come alone.
5. Consider our priority needs from time to time
If we let ourselves be carried away by the urgency of the environment or of others, sometimes, our needs remain in a permanent queue and never get their turn, unless we put them in the front row. From time to time you have to look at that and reestablish the order of needs.
And now come some questions: what do you do intentionally to feel comfortable in your skin? How do you act and how do you talk to yourself? Are you consistent with your values and principles?
Inertia, the movement generated by the current that occurs around us, sometimes takes us towards behaviors that, in reality, are not what we want or what makes us feel good It is necessary to stop and reflect on it, realize the most frequent thoughts and the language we use, because it influences those thoughts and the emotions that are generated.
Observe your internal messages, perhaps they are along the lines of “I can’t do anything else” or “it’s not worth going against the current.” But it’s about you, the most important thing in your life. If you do not consider yourself important, and you convince yourself that “it is worth it” to do everything possible to be well, comfortable; Then you stop taking care of yourself, loving yourself, respecting yourself and, without being fully aware, you begin to self-destruct and, as a consequence, harm those around you.
It is easy to get carried away by victimhood and putting ourselves in the place of a passive subject, instead of considering ourselves responsible and taking initiatives with our sights set on ourselves, on feeling good, strong, capable; in learning from past mistakes to look to future opportunities. In short, feeling that everyone has the power to influence what happens around you.
We know that we live in difficult times, bad experiences or mistrust abound and new complications appear at every moment. The easy thing is to get carried away by discouragement and the tendency to think that we can’t do anything, but… can we really do nothing?
Maybe it’s time to take care of yourself like never before, to truly strengthen confidence and self-esteem, with conviction and every day. Bring out your potential and try the options in front of you. Experience the moments when things turn out, even if they are good, average or bad. But don’t stop doing it, trying your options again. No one better than you to believe in yourself. Take care of your self-esteem, it is a safe value.
