Why Is The Perspective From Which We Accompany Important?
Abundance or scarcity What paradigm do you live in? And from which one do you accompany clients?
Living from a scarcity mentality generates fear, and fear triggers unconsciously learned protective behaviors that are not always beneficial for the individual…
For example, thinking “I am not enough” will unleash a fear of loneliness and a behavior that leads us to settle for any quality of relationship in order to not be alone, possibly leading to many unnecessary situations of suffering.
This type of mentality also feeds on beliefs where “the other” is the enemy, because the basic thought of scarcity is “there is not enough for everyone.”
Two ways to position yourself in the abundance or scarcity mentality
Different cases can occur. First of all, that of who thinks they deserve it all, which acts from the mentality of “if I have it I have to defend it so as not to be left without it” and “if I don’t have it, I have to fight to have it.” In this way of thinking, the individual is at least taking care of the problem, living in unnecessary but busy tension.
A major problem arises when the individual feels unable to have or achieve with these types of reflections:
No matter how much the person does to get out of that situation, it will only change the results momentarily.
This type of scarcity mentality is generated in a paradigm of individualization, in which the perspective is rather linear, of “beginning and end”; either you are the first or you are the last or of the bunch. Places the person in normality; In this state we feel that we are safe, and that makes it easier for us to leverage ourselves into what we call our comfort zone.
Thus, a perspective facilitates “I win, you lose” or “I lose and you win.” It is a way of seeing things in which “the ego” roams freely and makes decisions based on unconscious fear that produces scarcity. In this way of thinking, the individual is quite asleep because his whole concern is at least not to be left last or alone.
All this leads to a lot of maladjustment to the circumstances, emotional prostitution and imbalance, thinking only about individual well-being. And the worst of all is that the suffering that the individual suffers is real lived as such and unsustainable, because you cannot let your guard down: either I win or I lose.
The ability to adapt
On the contrary, live an abundance mentality, fosters balance, sustainability, connection and awareness responsibility, intrinsic motivation, and the availability to search for alternatives.
Living with abundance, thinking with abundance, is related to a systemic perspective, an awareness of belonging to something greater than what is generated by oneself.
It is a “circular” perspective where we can all contribute and we can take; It is a common fund, each one contributes what they have, improving the whole and takes from everything they need to improve it. Open space for generosity, gratitude, kindness, open a space for others from respect.
From this way of seeing things we have our own space, we contribute, and therefore, we do not have to fight about “if I am capable, if I can or if I deserve.” In it, the person does not get lost in these survival issues, because they are already covered, and fear, when it exists, arises from a higher level of consciousness, with an equanimous gaze to be able to act contemplating all the resources that exist in the whole. .
When we accompaniment professionals look from there, we open other channels to our clients, from the connection with themselves. From the possibility of loving each other as they are and above all from the possibility of stopping being afraid of themselves.
Abundance strengthens happiness and well-being. Because it connects with the essence of the human being and the ego becomes an ally that warns me when I get lost. Scarcity weakens it because it connects with the destructive ego.
How do you know from what perspective people are speaking?
Here I leave you some keys to know where your client is speaking from, or even from where you are thinking
Thoughts from scarcity
Thoughts from abundance
They inform, they do not suppose.
They speak from responsibility, that is, they are included in the results.
They explain, they do not justify.
They speak in the 1st person.
They narrate the facts.
They choose they are productive.
They learn from mistakes.
They act.
They are in the present.
They define objectives.
They make decisions.
Related article: “Cognitive schemes: how is our thinking organized?”
The change in language and how we address our clients will mean giving them a different place and showing them a path from which they can find different solutions to their situations and problems.
Did you like the article? He comments.
It’s just a reflection, it works for me. Scarcity and abundance generate different worlds, and when it comes to personal well-being it is essential where we are looking.
What there is is what there is, more What I do with what I have will depend on how I position myself in this life
