It is very likely that, if you have come this far, it is because you are going through a bad time in your marriage or courtship, You don’t know what to do in a relationship crisis and you can’t think of any more possible solutions to get out of it.
Romantic relationships can be difficult, and sometimes couples face crises that test their love and their ability to overcome problems together. A relationship crisis can arise for many reasons, such as communication problems, infidelity, cultural differences, economic differences, values, among others. However, If addressed appropriately, a relationship crisis can be an opportunity to strengthen the relationship and grow together
What to do in a relationship crisis: 7 guidelines to follow
These are some recommendations to follow to resolve the crisis you are going through.
1. Open and honest communication
Communication is key in any relationship, and it is even more important in times of crisis. Sometimes we tend to think that there is “lack of communication” when the reality is that there is plenty of it, but of the dysfunctional kind. Thus, It is important that both you and your partner talk openly about what is happening and how you feel about it Listen to your partner without judging or criticizing, and express your feelings and concerns clearly and respectfully.
Accepting that there is a problem in the relationship is the first step to solving it. It is important that both you and your partner understand that each one has their own reasons and feelings in the crisis Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and understand their perspective, this can help you find solutions that work for both of you.
3. Seek professional help
Sometimes, the help of a professional may be necessary to resolve a relationship crisis. A certified therapist can help identify the underlying causes of the problem and provide tools to resolve it. If you are both willing to work on the relationship, couples therapy can be a good option to improve communication and emotional connection.
This is why I encourage you to contact me and we can begin a therapeutic process in which to resolve your crisis.
4. Work on yourself
Often, relationship crises are the result of unresolved personal problems. Taking time to work on yourself, whether through meditation, exercise, or individual therapy, can help you be a better partner and more at peace with yourself. Besides, When you work on yourself, you can be a role model for your partner, which can help improve the relationship
5. Learn to forgive
Sometimes, couple crises are the result of projections and missteps committed by one or both members of the couple. Learning to forgive your partner and yourself is essential to overcome a relationship crisis. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget what happened, but it does mean that you are willing to let go of pain and resentment to move forward together.
6. Activate the Neural Network by Default
It is essential that you learn to go through moments of solitude with yourself in which there is no greater distraction or stimulus than your own mind, emotions, feelings, plans…
Therefore, I encourage you to, for 30 minutes a day, choose a quiet place and dedicate those 30 minutes to strengthening the Default Neural Network in order to find yourself and rebuild many of the wounds that exist within you.
7. Increase moments of intimacy as a couple
One of the most relevant problems within the couple is the lack of moments of intimacy. And by that I am not only referring to the sexual nature of the relationship, but also to those moments in which fears, insecurities, desires, achievements, plans are shared… It is essential that you can take time every day to share how you feel What worries you, what emotion do you feel most strongly, what would you like to transform in your relationship…
Problem Solving Technique for couple crisis
Below, I will briefly summarize the steps necessary to carry out effective troubleshooting.
1. Become aware
It is important to understand that, like any methodology, it is not a magical solution to all problems and It is essential to let go of all expectations of suffering 0
2. List problem
The next step will be to choose different types of problems that exist within the couple and place them hierarchically in order of importance and magnitude.
3. Choose the problem
Now you are going to choose the problem that, within the hierarchy, is most relevant to you but know that you have the ability to face him.
4. Possible solutions
It is time to take our creativity out for a walk and thus begin to formulate different types of solutions, no matter how crazy they may seem. The more the better and the more varied they are, the closer you will get. At this point it is relevant to say that two possible extreme solutions will be chosen. One of action and one of inaction.
It should be noted that During this phase, there can be no value judgments towards any of the options no criticism, nor anything that calls into question the validity of the option.
5. Select preferred solution
Now, and not before, comes the time to evaluate and judge the different solutions proposed above. To do this, we will make a list of pros and cons with each of the possible solutions until we find the one that best suits both of us by rating each option from 1 to 10.
It is important in this step to take into account the degree of resolution of the problem with each proposed solution, the cost/benefit ratio, the degree of general satisfaction, what is gained and what is lost and, finally, consider what is the worst that can happen. happen with her.
6. Implement solution
Now comes the moment of truth where both of you will put the chosen solution into practice through small steps and see if it really works and solves the problem. always negotiating with the couple how far they can go at each moment
And if that solution didn’t work, we simply looked at the next one that we had as the best rated and tried to implement it.
Conclusion
I am aware that all this is easier said than done, that is why I suggest that you contact me so that you can tell me about your personal situation and we will see how we can manage it.
Finally, I want to thank you for staying until the end and I sincerely wish you that you can improve your relationship as a couple.
