One of the most in-demand topics in the consultation is fidelity in the couple and the lack of it.
Many people consider the unfaithful person as someone who betrays, who is with another person, who generates another relationship (parallel “official”), which triggers sadness, discomfort, discomfort, suffering and in many cases the breakup of relationships. the couple, and in others, in maintaining the relationship despite heartbreak and mistrust, since they may have the feeling of “not being able to be without that partner.”
To continue, I think it is important that we clarify the term fidelity. This refers to a person being logical, honest and above all horizontal and constant with what he professes, whether these are affections, ideas, responsibilities and others.
Therefore, under this line, it could be said that infidelity is the rupture of what one professes, since the person cannot remain or sustain what he said he would do, which generates pain, loss of hope, heartbreak. another person and the big question for both of us: why did I do it?
In this article I will specifically refer to sexual fidelity since it is the one that has the greatest possibility of prevention, since emotional fidelity, once broken, the possibilities of rebuilding it are lower (since it is no longer just proximity, coitality, desire, or eroticism, but rather they are linked the affections, feelings, making the person’s chemistry, want to spend more time with that person, and not like sexual infidelity, in which once the sexual act has been performed, each person returns to their daily lives without “apparently” affecting their “stable” “formal” couple relationship).
For many women, understanding that a large number of men can have sexual relations without affection is difficult to understand, because they think and feel that having coital sexual relations with another person must imply affection; but In most cases, for men, sexual infidelity is a matter of opportunity because many times the relationship is once or twice and then disappears, it does not generate a bond or affection with this person.
The opportunity for a sexual relationship in men may have a lot to do with testosterone, which generates motivation for it; But this does not make this desire unbridled, since the prefrontal lobe helps to control, handle and manage it, so it does not become something genetic or deterministic: “it is testosterone that leads me to infidelity” or “it is just that “I am a man, I have needs.” Men are able to control and manage this sexual desire unless there are other alterations in the brain.
Masturbation and its role in sexual fidelity
Many men, despite having the answer in their hands to avoid all sexual infidelity, due to gender issues, the construction of that masculinity, they feel that masturbation is something that should not be practiced because at a “certain age”, it is no longer a good thing, “it should no longer be done”, because it would be a symbol, or a sample, of the little capacity that man has to conquer and seduce, added to the fact that it is constructs that masturbating “is not the same” as having coital sexual relations.
Masturbation as an experience can have a satisfactory effect on the person, since it can allow them to fully develop in the acquisition and understanding of their body schema, particularly of parts not usually used in their daily lives. Also can help avoid sexual infidelity because autoeroticism, continuing to explore your body, without guilt, without fear, without prejudice, will allow you to continue learning to enjoy and when being with your partner, to be able to practice it and achieve greater pleasure and sexual satisfaction.
Continuing to demonize masturbation It causes men to build prejudices about it and end up looking for a coital relationship at any price, and without measuring the consequences with a woman, because he will have in his head the justification that “I am a man” “I need a woman” and of course in some cases other men, because it is not affection, affection that unites him with the other person, but perhaps It’s just the desire to penetrate and feel like you can still have erections and ejaculate. Then it no longer even matters with whom or how (be it for conquest, for payment, for rape, whether it is a woman or a man) “you must have a coital sexual relationship.”
Masturbation is an intimate and loving relationship with oneself where touch, smells, sounds, etc. intervene. Fantasy plays a very important role, so practicing it should not lead to ideas that turn it into a harmful practice, or that something bad and perverse is being done. All these ideas are part of the social repression that exists on this practice, since it is even proposed that a person who masturbates will no longer want to have coital sexual relations with other people, or may become “sexually ill” who only wants to do that. The truth is that autoeroticism helps you get to know yourself better as a sexual person and experience fantasies without harming another person or yourself and, above all, without putting your relationship at risk.
Masturbating can relieve stress, sexual tension, function as a form of safe intercourse or non-penetrative intercourse to reduce the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancies, provide sexual pleasure to people who do not have a partner, including older people, allow higher levels of marital and sexual satisfaction and provide treatment for sexual dysfunction, and above all protect a relationship in which for xoz factor cannot have sexual relations for a certain time. Taking care of your relationship is always within your reach. It all depends on how faithful, responsible and committed you are to your relationship.
