Keep these maxims and guidelines in mind to build a fulfilling and emotionally viable marriage.
1. Self-love
It is impossible to love another person without first loving yourself. When a person does not love himself enough, he does not take care of himself, physically, mentally or spiritually.
He also does not take care of the other person, he only seeks his own immediate gratification, he has no emotional stability. They tend to feel inferior, because of that comes unhealthy jealousy, distrust, assumptions, fights, emotional codependency, misunderstanding and finally the end of the marriage.
On the other hand, these people can be highly manipulative or easy to manipulate, which is neither ethical nor dignified. He who does not have love is nothing.
2. Love and respect you can only give what you have
You can only receive what you give If you love and respect yourself, you will also love and respect your partner. When you truly love, you only look for good for your partner because by hurting them you are hurting yourself, that represents pain. You have to fall in love with, edify and congratulate your partner daily.
It is firm hope, certainty and faith in the other person. Without it, not even friendship is possible To trust another person it is essential to trust yourself; Imagine how you feel when you meet someone confident… They inspire confidence in you, right?
Trust is created, transmitted and felt. You have to create trust from the first moment, maintain it and increase it
Give more than what is expected of you. If your partner trusts you and you trust them, your marriage is more likely to last.
4. Assertive and empathetic communication
It is essential to express your emotions freely and voluntarily. without restrictions or fear that the other person will get angry or feel bad. You have to seek to understand you and also genuinely understand what your partner feels.
Most of the time, human beings spend their time making value judgments, based on previous experiences, generalizing or taking current situations for granted without having evidence. This creates discord: since you already take it for granted, you don’t empathize, you don’t ask questions and you assume it as reality. But it is not reality, it is your reality based on assumptions that your mind creates At this point you have to empathize and ask, using an appropriate tone of voice that communicates that you really care about what you are talking about and want to know more.
5. Open-mindedness and unconditional acceptance
You have to maintain an open and receptive attitude to considering new ideas and opinions knowledge and behaviors.
This is also based on forgiveness, because only forgiveness brings peace. Forgiving not only means doing good to the other person; It is also doing good for yourself, and being good is priceless.
6. Innovation and sexuality
What does not grow dies, because routine is boring; mastering the art of innovation equals progress, and progress is happiness in all areas of life, also in marriage
7. Conquest
You have to create unique and unforgettable moments; Having projects and goals together helps couples strengthen their emotional bond and achievement that remain united with the vision of growing personally, spiritually and financially.
8. Clear finances
It’s important to budget how much you earn together, how much you spend and on what, how much you save, and how much you invest.
9. Resignation
Nobody owns anyone; “I love you, but I don’t need you” is the fact of feeling free being committed
10. Harmonious relationship with your spouse’s family
It is not healthy for the newly married couple to live in their parents’ house, with siblings, friends or family members, this alone creates power conflicts and resentments Newlyweds need their own space to develop, love each other and create a new awareness of being.
