Life is one; Each person has a past and a generational structure that makes their life unique. However, the environment greatly influences the personality and characteristics that a “good” person should have, or those appropriate to fit into society.
Comparisons between one person and another They present themselves daily, wanting to generate, in an unconscious way, a unanimous society, both in thoughts, tastes and interests.
It is always said that each person is unique and has every right to express themselves, but on thousands of occasions, if an individual expresses a different opinion, He is classified as ignorant, daring, irrational and even crazy
Humanity is immersed in pretending what it is not; It presents constant concern about what they will say, what they will think, how they will see me, whether I will fit in, whether they will accept me, among many more. Therefore, wanting to do things as society imposes it is much easier to think, act and be different.
When the human being understands that Diversity allows for personal, social and cultural enrichment will stop pointing out and judging people based on their physical, mental, economic, professional and work condition.
Because of the above, we see so many people full of fear, with a false and hypocritical happiness towards society in general and even towards themselves.
Happiness is a state of mind that implies in the person a series of positive recognitions, an acceptance of negative ones and daily tasks.
There’s a pretty fine line between being happy and being happy which is often crossed without realizing it and generates a lot of confusion in what one is, what one should and what one has.
To achieve the above, you must recognize the desires, dreams, desires you had before leaving this cruel society and verify those you currently have. You have to analyze the emotional changes and their reaction to each situation you experience, and analyze the constant desire for affirmation, the desire to be recognized and accepted in front of your peers. Let us remember that each person is different and this difference influences the diagnosis.
What other factors influence the decision to want to be someone I am not?
One of the main factors is the family; Parents are used to being admired by their children. This is a generational pattern which has created repressed children, unhappy young people and frustrated adults with a tendency to repeat the same pattern just through automatic learning, which allows for much less wear and tear. Other factors are: society, school, teachers and friends.
The consequences of always trying to fit in
Some of the many relatively common consequences that occur when trying to fit in at all costs are bullying, psychoactive substance use and suicide not only in children, but also in young people and adults.
Other consequences are addictions to gambling (gambling), to compulsive shopping (oniomania), to cell phones (nomophobia) and even to pornography and unrestrained sex. The latter brings not only problems with the couple, but also with themselves, not being able to fill that void they have.
Another consequence is the lack of communication: you don’t listen, you hear what you want to hear; one is immersed in a world full of what they will say
There is no communication between parents and children, nor between teachers and students, much less between couples. You want a perfect life, a perfect family, when perfect love comes from imperfection.
On the other hand, many parents try not to compare their children, but consciously or unconsciously they do so, using a different vocabulary, judging their actions and recriminating their current state It may be that they do it in a tender way, with different words, that do not hurt them; but the inside of their children is affected.
Conclusion
There is no manual for being parents or for being healthy people; But there is an instinct and a determination to love the difference, to break generational patterns and let the other be spontaneous. That other person is important and valuable no matter what, every crazy person has their own theme, each person has in their mind a different world in which they would like to be; That is why children must be allowed to be children; This time will never return and a healthy adult is generated from a happy childhood.
Young people must be taught to make healthy decisions, with principles and values, respecting the differences of others.
Fight to be happy with who you are without pretending anything, and let others live and enjoy their lives with full happiness, and thus every fool will be in his theme.
If you want to heal from everything that permeates you and begin to respect differences without being scared by seeing each crazy person with their own issue, I’ll wait for you in therapy.
