The breakup of a couple generally entails a set of consequences for the parents.
For example, in most cases separation implies lower economic income and an increase in expenses, since you have to pay for another house. This affects the children, since they are also affected economically, and that is why it is convenient for the parents to get involved. agree on how to assume the economic situation, especially taking into account the interest of the minors involved.
But there is also psycho-emotional effects It is common for the person who did not make the decision to separate to present symptoms associated with stress, anxiety and depression. If the emotional state of one of the parents is very unbalanced, it is necessary to attend a psychological consultation. But psychological alterations can also occur in children, especially in childhood.
Emotional disturbances in children linked to the breakup of their parents
These are the emotional problems that can occur in minors in a situation like this.
1. Feeling of guilt
Sometimes the little ones They feel guilty or responsible for all the problems arising from the separation especially when it is not explained to them what is happening.
2. Anxiety and depression
When children do not receive adequate support and constant assistance from their parents, anxiety and depression often arise.
There may be a setback in development, which leads to behaviors from previous stages: bedwetting, thumb sucking, sleep disorders, apathy about going to school, crying excessively, tantrums…
4. Disruptive behaviors
Behaviors that involve impulsivity and breaking of coexistence rules
5. Feelings of frustration and rejection
Children reject their parents separating, maintaining the hope of seeing their family united, and as a consequence a lot of frustration and uncertainty arises
6. School problems
When children are faced with separation from their parents, sometimes your interest in school activities decreases and pay less attention in class.
What should we keep in mind?
Not all children suffer the breakup in the same way; each minor will experience it in a different way and with different intensity, since There are a series of variables that can increase the risk of emotional maladjustment
It is necessary to eliminate conflict and maintain a positive co-parenting relationship so that children do not suffer long-term negative consequences.
Age determines the ability of children to understand and self-regulate in the face of parental separation The little ones tend to have behavioral problems, and the older ones, social skills. It is important to remember that imbalances are different for each age group.
It must also be taken into account what is the level of parental conflict (before, during and after the separation). It is important to remember that it is necessary to minimize the conflict and not involve the children.
The absence of an explanation adapted to the child’s age from both parents about what is happening around them can generate anguish, confusion and insecurity.
On the other hand, deteriorating the image of the other parent worsens the situation; Children or adolescents have the right to have a good image of their father or mother, to enhance and maintain their emotional adjustment.
Furthermore, when parents lack emotional stability, the negative consequences for their children will be detrimental. That is why it is important to seek psychological support or advice.
Nor should we forget that It is essential that children feel loved by both parents with the freedom to give affection to his father and mother and his extended family. Preventing one of the parents as well as the extended family (especially grandparents) from having a relationship with their children or children violates the rights of the children as well as limits the support that the extended family can provide in the present or in the future.
The presence of a new partner is important in the lives of the sons and daughters and it is important that they be present at a reasonable time to be present in the life of the son or children. Furthermore, it should never occupy the space of the father or mother.
Educational discrepancies can terribly affect a child’s development It is important to reduce these differences so that they do not affect the children.
Of course, the gender of the parents does not determine that one has more economic responsibilities than the other, such as caring for and educating their sons and daughters. None of the parents is better than the other because they are a man or a woman or the one who contributes the most financially.
The breakup can be resolved through judicial means; However, it is advisable to do it extrajudicially.
Judicial
It is a judicial decision. The parents opt for the contentious route and through their representatives go to court for a judicial decision maker to resolve the conflict through a ruling (which they are obliged to comply with).
Extrajudicial
The parents, before starting the judicial process, voluntarily go to a family mediation service. The mediator, impartially, helps them reach agreements Finally, the agreements reached are put into public deed.
This is what is called positive coparenting; Family mediation promotes co-parenting and leads couples to reach more satisfactory agreements for all. Coparenting is a way to respect the rights of children and fulfill obligations as parents. The exercise of co-parenting forces both parents to take responsibility and participate in the development of the well-being of their sons and daughters under equal conditions.
