The Importance Of Treating Yourself With Affection
Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? You feel identified? The way we address ourselves, the way we talk to and treat ourselves, influences us in an important way.
I usually see surprised faces in consultation when I explain that all those judgments, opinions, demands, beliefs and convictions about ourselves and the world around us are learned, we have inherited them almost without realizing it in relation to our environment. And our human need to prove ourselves right has done the rest, directing our attention over the years to everything that proves that those ideas we have are true, because we don’t like to be wrong, even if being right still means convincing me. more that I am the worst and that I never learn, with all its consequences, sometimes devastating.
But how It is learned, it is modifiable It is possible to acquire tools and train skills for a better relationship with oneself in which to be fairer, freer to develop new opinions, perspectives and decisions.
Stopping, observing ourselves and becoming aware of how we speak, how we address others and, most importantly, ourselves is a good exercise in self-knowledge. What we tell ourselves and how we do it when we make a mistake, when things don’t go as we expect, are useful questions to begin to consider what type of relationship we have with ourselves. As the quote in the image says, you are the most influential person for you. What’s more, our relationship with ourselves will be the most important one we have throughout our lives, since we are the only person from whom we will not be able to separate. That is why it is important cultivate this relationship and learn to treat ourselves with respect, because this begins with and for ourselves.
Respect us It is the first step to treating ourselves as we deserve. On many occasions we are our harshest judge and this is where we must learn to know ourselves. Just as we think we deserve to be treated by others, this is how we should act towards ourselves. Avoiding being too harsh and trying to understand each other, as we would do with a loved one who needs our help. Because loving ourselves is the first step to taking care of ourselves and taking care of ourselves is the best way to show us that love.
Why should we improve our self-perception?
The way we treat each other significantly influences our self-esteem, in the well-being in our relationships and in the achievement of the objectives we set for ourselves. Therefore, I encourage you to reflect on your internal dialogue in order to change it in the direction that can best help you value yourself as best as possible and in a fairer way.
Because like respect, good treatment begins with and towards oneself. Becoming aware is a big step and change, sometimes, is not an easy task and as with other things in life we will need help. Don’t be afraid to ask for it, honesty with yourself and humility can be the best allies in this business of getting closer to who you want to be and love yourself as you deserve This change is usually not an easy task and, as with other learning, we may need professional help. Asking for it is giving yourself the opportunity to be better and more satisfied.
