Changes are inherent to life but we do not always take them as positive elements and we tend to allow ourselves to be paralyzed by the fear of trying.
Nowadays, we live in a society of continuous change, whether in the city, in the couple, in the house or even in sex. In principle, the changes may seem very positive to us, but it is curious how human beings begin to feel very overwhelmed and even question whether embracing change was or is the right thing to do.
All change is for the better, that’s what they tell us from a very young age. But is that so real? The mind can say yes but, at the same time, no. If all change were so easy to process, it wouldn’t be so confusing in our heads.
I remember how people come to consultation with wonderful lives, who sound wonderful, and who have chosen to live but, at the same time, they don’t quite feel comfortable. They are aware that they have everything, but that something is missing or failing.
Making a radical change must be something well thought out, since it is not a magical solution, nor does it mean that it will turn out well no matter what: sometimes it is better to take small leaps and then reach a big change.
Let’s say, as an example, that we are eating something that we don’t like, we immediately leave it but we have given it the opportunity to try it and that also represents an important change: trying new things and then the right thing will be chosen, without being left with just one option. as the only way out.
We are going to set a series of guidelines for radical changes:
Nothing should scare you
Even if it is difficult for you to take the step, do not be afraid of it going wrong, since human beings, when faced with things, even if they go wrong, do not suffer so much anxiety. Everything you do to change or delay it will make you reconsider but, at the same time, it will make you get used to not trying.
The pain
We cannot stay stuck because pain occurs in us or because the situation makes us nervous. No one can assure us that something will not be painful, even the same situation can have painful consequences at first and, if we repeat it again, we will no longer have them.
The past, out
If we want new changes, looking to the past is not useful, not even to gain momentum. Every opportunity is new and must shine as unique.
It is normal that, when leaving things behind, we feel like a “grief”, but it is something normal that will disappear.
Attempt
Why do not do it? This question, if you let too much time pass, you will no longer be able to answer it because your mind will believe that that opportunity has already passed and that now it is not enough to make you as happy as it could have made you before (this is a type of excuse from the dominant mind).
