Experts Say That Consuming Too Much Porn Destroys Life As A Couple
Porn can become a double-edged sword. There are experts who recommend it in a relationship, and others who consider that it can be harmful. What is correct?
Today I am going to talk to you about a controversial topic from which conflicting opinions may arise: porn in relationships.
There are experts who talk about the benefits of watching porn but at the same time comment that it is a double-edged sword. Although what is seen on the screen may awaken an increased libido on both sides, we must not forget that what is observed and what happens in this type of film is far from what is a real sexual relationship and can cause problems in the couple.
To give an example, in cinema X both people are predisposed to practically anything and there is no communication, there is simply action. In real life, and for sex to be satisfactory for both parties, good communication is essential If you feel like doing something new, propose it to your partner, do not assume that he/she may also like it.
Another important issue related to porn is the fact that it usually These types of films are designed for the male part of the relationship Women tend to get frustrated, since in the X videos the woman pleases the man and then intercourse takes place. If later in the sexual relationship with the partner what has been seen is copied, the woman may not be satisfied. It is essential that in those cases she expresses her needs and what she wants. You can also choose to alternate X-cinema videos with porn aimed at women, in this way the desires of both can be satisfied. Otherwise, these types of sexual games only serve to please one of the parties.
Then there is the issue of “excesses.” Everything, absolutely Anything done in excess, no matter how beneficial it may be in normal doses, ends up being harmful if too much is consumed. Just as having a sweet from time to time is very positive, if you consume too much it can cause overweight or some physical problem. In the same way, consuming too much porn can ruin a relationship. You will wonder why; The issue is simple: when excess occurs, it will normally be due to one of the parties. Not both of them will be at the same level, one of the two may not feel like it or it may end up becoming another routine of watching porn. In relationships you have to innovate and if this also ends up becoming a routine, we return to the problem. Furthermore, when one of the two wants to and the other doesn’t, discussions may arise either one of the two agrees solely to please or out of fear of losing the relationship (Therefore, the one who gives in becomes frustrated, he does not do it because he really wants to). Not to mention concealment; If arguments arise over the times in which one of the members consumes porn, that member of the relationship will tend to hide that he continues to do so. The problem with excesses is that they normally generate a certain addiction and quitting becomes difficult, so the best way (apparently, of course) is to hide what you do and when you do it. The problem arises when the other party to the relationship discovers that you watch porn secretly, there the person may feel betrayed and the relationship may suffer.
We must not lose sight of the fact that in a relationship everything, absolutely everything is a matter of two All what is done has to be consensual and it has to appeal to both parties. Thus, doing things because you feel pressured or because you are afraid is not the best solution. In that case, talk to your partner about how you feel and try to find a solution.
If you notice that your partner has become obsessed with watching porn, perhaps it would be good to talk about it with him/her without generating an argument, but rather sharing your concern and having the other person clearly express their hypothesis as to why they consume it in that way.
Sometimes it is necessary to make a couple therapy , since sexual problems can be the cause of deeper problems in the romantic relationship. On other occasions the problem may be with one of the members, perhaps because they have an obsessive personality. In that case, it may be more than appropriate for the person to perform a personal therapy since porn may not be to seek pleasure but rather as a need to relieve a negative emotion.
In any case, remember that communication is our best tool before any problem. Let’s use it.
