Dealing with negative people is not an easy task, since these are people who, due to conditioning from their past, present more or less intense verbiage based on a negative and catastrophic vision of life. Staying next to these people for a long time, without becoming aware that we must adopt certain tools that protect us from the negativity they present, can end up dragging us into these pits of darkness, disappointment and distrust.
In this PsychologyFor article, we will tell you how to deal with negative people in a way that we create a shield against this negativity and, in a way, we can help these types of people to get out of this sphere of darkness that surrounds them.
What to do with negative people? Transmit joy to them, as it combats all negativity and, in itself, contains vital compounds that eliminate all types of negative elements. It is a calm and sober joy (not euphoric) that radiates a strength that encourages trust in life and spreads said joy and peace.
Offers a positive outlook on life
When dealing with negative people, you should not adopt an attitude of opposition to any negative element they transmit. In reality, it is about having a serene attitude capable of convey the true strength that hides behind every detail of the life.
This aspect is closely linked to the joy mentioned in the previous section. To offer a positive vision of life that truly captivates our interlocutor, our heart must remain happy. In this way, without any effort and naturally, we will transmit to our partner a confident and positive vision of life.
Understand that it is a shell and not the people themselves
How to prevent negative people from affecting you? It is essential to understand that negativity is not something intrinsic to the person. Originally, every human being is pure, happy and confident This negative way of life that is shown in each behavior is a defense mechanism created in the past as a result of living certain unpleasant experiences. Considering this situation in this way will give us a shield against the force of negativity.
Respect without getting carried away by negativity
It is important don’t judge negative people, understanding that they act controlled by irrational defense mechanisms. Therefore, we must make an effort to respect them as whole and complete people, without this meaning allowing ourselves to be carried away by the negativity that arises from them. In this article, we tell you how not to judge others.
Offer active and empathetic listening
On most occasions, negative people need comfort to calm and soothe their wounds. Offering them active and empathetic listening can help them unravel emotional ailments which, because they are quiet and unconscious, lead them to these negative inertias.
In the face of constant negative attitudes, it is important to know how to discern between what is really good for said person to express because it will calm their soul and the mechanized discourse of negativity that, as a vicious circle, further feeds the person’s negativity.
Try to make them aware of their circles of negativity
If the relationship with the negative person is close and continuous, it is very beneficial for them to try to make them aware of these circles of negativity that surround them and that see all the negative consequences that this way of acting brings with it.
Help him refute his negative vision with his own experience
What to do with negative people? If you have started this process of accompaniment in becoming aware of this mechanism of negativity, you can go one step further by trying to deny specific aspects of your negative vision with non-rational life experiences that allow you to contrast it.
It is much more effective contrast it with real events that the person themselves can experience since personal experience establishes any type of learning much more effectively and intensely.
Help him enhance his positive skills
When dealing with negative people, when you have already shared your experiences to contrast their negative view of life, you can help them enhance their positive abilities and skills. Are They will give you new strength, joy and motivation facing a possible new path. In this sense, we recommend you read this article about a person’s skills: list and examples.
Believe beyond negativity
As we mentioned at the beginning of the article, to deal with negative people it is essential that we believe in them. First of all, you have to see the person who is really behind all the negativity shown. This supposes a act of love and trust that favors detachment of the person by the negative magnets.
Maintain inner peace to pass it on
Maintaining inner peace will help us remain in this respectful and real vision of the person with whom we are relating, beyond the negative behavior they manifest. Our peace will radiate calm in your own heart and that will allow you to recover your true vital force, absorbed by negativity, and take new steps away from such a stormy way of life.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
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