Envy is a feeling caused by failure or perception of personal inadequacy that is accompanied by sadness, frustration and anger. by not having and wanting to have something that the other has. This may be causing depression, anxiety and aggression combined with feelings of injustice.
Envy is a natural process at a time of childhood development. Thus the feeling of envy can arise in childhood, when the child does not feel loved enough by his parents and valued in relation to his siblings and friends. These feelings of lack and inferiority, coupled with feelings of rivalry, are essential.
The problem is that these people They want to have or be like others without fighting or looking for strategies to achieve it. They are people who have generally had many failures throughout their lives.
Something essential is to accept ourselves as we are with virtues and defects, instead of being or appearing to others to mitigate envy; Envious people are people who feel a lot of contempt for themselves, and the seriously envious also tend to despise others.
When envy is exaggerated, mistreatment of one’s partner and loved ones can occur. Feelings of envy cause feelings of guilt; They are generally self-reproving and revert back to the same person.
These people hide by making supposedly positive reviews and wanting to help, they also tend to disqualify the person they are envying. It is a very harmful feeling when it occurs in the family environment. When a family member wants to put down another family member it is normally because he or she wants the other to be as he or she wants.
There are factors in a society like ours that accentuate and even exalt the characteristics of envy, given that if It is not well seen but it is not recognized either; There are also other elements to help recognize it, such as: self-criticism, meditation and self-analysis that help recognize your values and dispel envy.
Furthermore, envy causes comfort with people. Thus, envy felt to an extreme degree can make the person who is feeling it sick.
Envy levels
exist different levels of feelings of envy.
What to do to overcome envy?
Envy is not always bad or not always a negative factor, because it isIt can help us grow if we know how to channel it.
Of course, the first thing that is required to manage envy is to recognize it and analyze the reasons why you have this feeling. It is very difficult to recognize the feeling of envy, It is generally in therapy when we recognize that poorly managed feelings of envy are behind depression.
If a person imitates another, this is cause for alert, and we can explore whether they are positive or negative feelings that can help the envious person overcome.
To recognize an envious person, we can take into account some basic warning signs: problems due to envy arise especially in people who are not happy about our successes and show a lot of competitiveness and competition instead of sharing and enjoying what has been achieved.
One of the ways to manage this phenomenon is to focus on personal growth instead of being attentive to what others are and have.
Sometimes envy can be an important driver to start growing, but it can still produce anxiety, anger and suffering.
Low self-esteem, insecurity and misunderstood narcissism can cause feelings of envy and instead we can try to be grateful for what we ourselves have achieved.
Enjoy life instead of watching how others enjoy it It is a key factor for growth and avoiding feelings of envy. It is important to be flexible and not have a high level of self-demand and frustration tolerance.
And on social networks…
Facebook and Instagram help considerably to foster envy. We see how friends and even strangers are progressing, having fun even without anything published being true. They usually show how they dress, how they comb their hair, what they buy, what trips they take, promoting the fantasy that the other person has a better time than oneself. We can all feel this feeling, and that is why marketing scholars achieve greater advertising impact by taking advantage of the potential of envy, and it is also used in politics and sales.
Idealization is very common on social networks and has to do with what we want from ourselves; but we believe that it is not possible to achieve it, and consequently we see and desire it in the other. That’s why it’s useful try not to compare yourself with others and learn to value what you have working for you and not for others.
The way to handle envy on social media is to first consider that much of what we see and read is utopian and examine how what you are seeing and reading affects us, and how it is affecting your self-esteem, and then start unfollowing the people who are awakening negative emotions in you.
I suggest going to psychotherapy if you feel this way to help you recognize your feelings and also raise your self-esteem, overcoming feelings of inferiority.
