Dignity is the value that a person has before themselves and before others. Only by maintaining it, without allowing ourselves to be devalued, can we have a full and satisfying love.
Dignus, dignified, dignum is the Latin adjective that, translated, means valuable Sometimes it is very useful to remember the etymology of words, it places them in their correct meaning and in our reality, which we define with them.
All people are valuable, regardless of our physical, economic or social status. Therefore, all of us are worthy of being loved by someone. Sometimes, our social or economic situation or our physical appearance mean that we are not considered valuable in the dating market, for example. And there are those who want to treat us like this, as if we were not. But, as Plato said, poison is only dangerous if we take it; That is to say, only if we accept that others treat us without respect and we allow the value judgment they make about us to prevail, will this harm us.
An unemployed person, with a job with little income or low social consideration, or with a physical appearance that is not in keeping with fashion, or frankly unattractive, for example, who allows himself to be treated with contempt or who puts himself in an unworthy situation, giving himself little value by allowing, humiliating yourself, requiring attention or love from those who do not want to give it to you, you are losing your dignity, you are giving it away for nothing.
We must accept that some people love us and others do not, because we do not correspond to the ideal image of greater value that they have.
We can’t do anything about love, it is an involuntary feeling that arises or not, in the case of a couple. But we can do something about the respect that anyone we know should have for us. To achieve this, we must act in a valuable way, which means, treating ourselves as if we were the most valuable person in the world, treating ourselves with delicacy, pampering ourselves, caring for ourselves, loving ourselves, respecting ourselves.
If my favorite sister, someone I treated, whom I deeply love and admire, told me, is humiliated, I am outraged, I am capable of lashing out at whoever does it, at least, of using all means to keep her away from whoever does it. ASAP. Why do I consider myself less valuable than her? Just because according to pre-established social paradigms I have less social relevance or a less attractive physique?
I have never wished harm on anyone, except those who have hurt me during the short time that my anger lasts, I have done or done good to many people, I have influenced their lives to change for the better, a valuable healthcare professional told me. service sector whom I met, I have wonderful children whom I have educated and raised along with their mother, I am a more or less well-formed, cultured man with solid moral values, I have told the idiot who I thought loved words sweeter and more tender, I have waited for her while I was sick, just to talk to him for a few minutes, I have arrived, to satisfy her desires, to have insensitive sex without feeling like it…and she barely gives me a few minutes of her time, without never say anything nice to me; He jealously guards his life without wanting to show it to me as if I were a despicable being with whom he does not want to share anything, he never asks me anything about myself, nor is he interested in anything that concerns me, he wants me to distract him for a while sometimes and give him some sex, she demands it from me when she hasn’t even shown me her true face; The only thing she has done, yes, is want to meet with me to entertain herself. Maybe that’s my mistake, I know that because of my physique, society values ​​me so little that I haven’t dared to leave it, considering it’s an opportunity.
“No one can look down on us if we don’t give them permission.“, said Eleanor Roosevelt; you are the one who measures yourself by the same standard as many others, according to these social paradigms of perfection, according to canons of fashions that can only be achieved temporarily and only by some, which embitter many. You must value yourself. yourself for your virtues and demand that whoever is next to you values ​​you equally, and if this is not the case, and, therefore, it does not make you happy, have the courage to return to your freedom and leave.
