To improve our sexuality, the key is to play and have fun, not genital sex focused on results in orgasms and ejaculations.
This is the key, Play and have fun , not achieving orgasms and ejaculations. These, when they come, will come. But you have to have fun, not get results, increase communication and erotic growth, complicity and good times. We both write separately what we would like to do, without thinking about the other. Just thinking about your own desire, your fantasies or what you find attractive. Without thinking, or fearing, what the other may think when they see it. A day and time is agreed upon to exchange the results and coincidences are noted. We begin without fear now, of not getting it right.
How to have fun as a couple?
It is also important to have a positive attitude and “non-critical” (we function by harassing ourselves and harassing the other party, without realizing it), and that the initiative is alternating, taking turns every x days at most. The change and dynamization of your sexuality will increase in a short time.
Suggestions:
- In other places, instead of on the bed, table, floor, etc.
- In public places such as department store locker rooms, elevators, in-laws or friends’ houses, etc.
- Outdoors on the beach, in the countryside, on the roof on a sun lounger, etc.
- With strawberries, chocolates, condensed milk, cream, syrup…
- In bed but improvising a sexual performance with the concert you have in the background, sex with rhythm… joking and laughing.
- Photos, mirrors and filming of sex.
- Sharing sex toys… and even fantasizing about a third party who could be a woman or a man, an acquaintance, an actor or actress…
- Saying obscenities, erotic insults, etc. or sweet words of love.
- Exchange fantasies, one tells the other what they have and can play at interpreting them. One can also start it and another finish it.
- Binding or gagging, covering their eyes and playing with cold, hot, soft, rough textures, etc.
- Staging roles such as submissive and master, doctor and nurse, pirate and maid, etc…
- Shaving each other’s pubes.
- Ejaculate on the face, breasts or other part of the other’s body or in the mouth.
- Masturbating in front of the couple.
- Use various coital positions…
- Find the “g” point.
- Anal sex.
- Double penetration.
- Cybersex.
- Go to a couples hotel…
Since the spirit and the body must be in agreement, it is good that we write down what we would also like the other to change in this sense, for example:
Let him be sweeter and more affectionate, let him look me in the eyes while we do it, let him hug me before or after, let him not worry about whether his erection lasts longer or shorter or if I reach orgasm or not… let him not worry in a negative sense and self-harassment or blaming others. That she is more relaxed, that she does not become paralyzed if she sees the other person more tired, that she does not demand results, that we leave out of bed both our hyperconfidence as friends, as well as our lack of trust and resentments for solitary confinement.