Every breakup circumstance is different. However, there is a situation that is especially painful: a couple breakup conditioned by third parties In this PsychologyFor article we help you find a solution to this situation that we present below: how to get over your girlfriend leaving you for someone else In this article we give you the keys to move forward with your life. Beyond the pain, hope lies in your self-esteem.
What to do when your girlfriend leaves you for someone else
If you want to know how to get over the fact that your girlfriend left you for someone else, in PsychologyFor we are going to give you a series of tips that will be of great help to you and they will ensure that you can turn the page and heal your wounds. They are the following:
Cry the disappointment You need to vent the wound, express the pent-up anger, channel the pain of abandonment. Therefore, express what you feel, do not repress it.
Do not give more weight to this circumstance What is truly decisive is not that a third person exists, but rather the rupture itself. That is the objective fact; the good bye. Therefore, try to experience this breakup as if your partner had not fallen in love with a third person. The definitive fact is that you are no longer together. It is in this direction that you should focus your energy.
Don’t blame that third person Do not hold that third person responsible for a decision that your partner has made regarding your relationship. Don’t take out your frustration on that person.
break contact throught social media. A true breakup materializes when on a psychological level you have accepted this fact. And to achieve this, it will help you to distance yourself from your ex through social networks because if you continue to learn about the news of their present life through Facebook, for example, then your heart is still in the past, not in the present.
Don’t compare yourself with that person your partner has fallen in love with. You also fell in love with him in the past. Do not compete internally with that someone. Your value remains the same before as it is now. This heartbreak should not influence your self-esteem since you are a unique, unrepeatable and resilient being. That is, inside you you have unlimited resources to overcome this story.
Don’t try to keep the friendship after the breakup. This is a form of self-deception. Right now, you are not ready to offer friendship to a person who has hurt your feelings. If you consider the possibility of friendship, it is very likely that within that longing there is the hope of winning back your ex.
Focus on your own life Take care of your professional goals. Cultivate your leisure time. Stay with your friends. Let yourself be surrounded by your family. Travels. Invest in your own happiness! Don’t make a drama out of this situation. Remember that pain is an objective fact, but suffering is subjective.
Think that you fall into suffering when you overthink this situation and exaggerate what happened. Make a list of a personal goal that you want to achieve now and make an action plan to achieve it.
Don’t feel sorry if your girlfriend leaves you for someone else
The role you assume in this breakup conditions you in a positive or negative way. Don’t assume the role of victim that leads you to suffer even more for what happened. It is normal to be hurt by what has happened, you have the right to feel disappointed and angry. However, remember that you are still the protagonist of your life.
Imagine that you are the writer of a story in which the protagonist of the plot is going through the same situation as you. How would you like the script of this story to be, giving this character the possibility of improving himself from this situation? You can do the real exercise of writing this story. It’s a gift you can give yourself!
Be honest with yourself
May be you analyze your love story with the perspective From a distance you notice that there was already something that was not going well between you. That is, perhaps you can find some element that leads you to think that in reality, the distance between the two occurred before your girlfriend fell in love with that person. Perhaps that was the definitive trigger for the breakup, but there may have been a prior situation of distancing.
Or, it may simply happen that your girlfriend has fallen in love with someone else, just as something similar could have happened to you. Accepting what has happened is the most difficult but the sooner you do it, the sooner you evolve.
Remember this message from humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers: “Being empathetic is seeing the world through the eyes of another and not seeing our world reflected in their eyes.” Therefore, try to observe this break not only from your own point of view, but also from your partner’s point of view.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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