Personal Development: Satisfaction, Well-being And Performance
If I say the word Psychology and then pause briefly, more than one person’s mind usually goes through an endless number of complications derived from the pathological conception that we all have in mind, based on the absence of mental health eternally linked to even erroneously, to the mentioned field.
In a positive sense, that is, in the development of mental abilities that favor the proper functioning of our thoughts feelings and behaviors, other types of recently coined terms are often used, such as the controversial concept of coaching, as if this technique did not have a close relationship with the fundamental objectives of positive psychology.
And each of us has a machine, perhaps the most powerful of all, I would dare say, for which fortunately or unfortunately we do not have the instruction manual on its operation. We only start from the base of eminently common hardware, whose software we develop throughout life through the acquisition of vital experiences and learning that ultimately determine our functional capabilities.
There are numerous examples that can be extracted from the cinematographic context in this sense. Anyone worth their salt will remember how Will Smith helped develop his seduction skills for his clients in the movie “Hitch.” Or how Lionel Logue did the same when it came to overcoming the stuttering caused by Duke George of York when speaking in public in the film “The King’s Speech.”
Somewhat less known to the general public in its big screen version, “The Peaceful Warrior” may be based on the autobiographical novel by Dan Milman, in which a mystic Nick Nolte, playing the “master” Socrates, collaborated in the learning by Scott Mechiowicz (Dan) to develop “the suspension of incessant mental dialogue, the abandonment of the ego, and the experience of living fully in the present moment.”
Likewise, it is common to find popular beliefs based on the stability and permanence of certain psychological characteristics, perfectly exemplified in expressions such as “I am like this” or “I have always behaved this way.” As if our interpretations, judgments or beliefs were determined by default, innately, in terms of “you have it or you don’t have it”, without addressing the possibility of development. Something that, on the other hand, happens with each new learning or experience that modifies our associations and neural connections. In itself, the very belief in psychological change already opens the door for it to happen itself.
To achieve these changes effectively, we find a series of necessary steps to be able to carry them out successfully. The first and perhaps most difficult of them would consist of learning to take ourselves less seriously when considering ourselves as a reliable source of knowledge, since as a general rule, we are all subject to changes in our emotional states that affect our judgment criteria. interpretation over time, being able to develop true atrocities in the form of beliefs, about ourselves or our abilities.
Frequently being able to resist the opinions or beliefs of others with which we disagree, We find greater difficulty in doing the same with those that we ourselves develop, making good the maxim of “if I think it, it will be because it is true.”.
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Another fundamental step necessary to move forward would consist of the willingness to abandon our old and dysfunctional beliefs, like the child who refuses to let go of his old toys that he barely enjoys anymore.
And it is not so much about analyzing the “why” or the truthfulness/falsehood of our approaches as well as changing our analysis criteria for others based more on the “why” or taking into account the usefulness/uselessness that certain thoughts provide us in a more practical sense, when it comes to achieving our change objectives.
Overcoming this first phase of change implies initially developing the insecurity of those who thought they were walking on solid ground and discover themselves in swampy terrain. However, the excitement and motivation that the desired change brings more than enough justifies the initial state of uncertainty.
With UPAD Psychology and Coaching, achieving new challenges is possible thanks to its personal development processes. The work of beliefs will be essential to face these new changes with guarantees that allow the client to achieve high levels of satisfaction, well-being and performance.
“When nothing is certain, everything is possible” (Margaret Drabble).
I’m Emily Williams Jones, a psychologist specializing in mental health with a focus on cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness. With a Ph.D. in psychology, my career has spanned research, clinical practice and private counseling. I’m dedicated to helping individuals overcome anxiety, depression and trauma by offering a personalized, evidence-based approach that combines the latest research with compassionate care.
