One of the main sources of conflict is usually the inability to put oneself in the other’s shoes. Pilar Cebrián will give us a trick to improve this aspect
Not knowing how to put yourself in your partner’s shoes or, in other words, lacking the capacity for empathy is one of the most common sources of conflict. This is how it stands out Pilar Cebrian client of WorldPsychologists and coach of the Cuatro program ‘Better call Pilar.’
But all is not lost, there are two exercises that Pilar proposed to one of the couples who participated in the program, Salva and Manoli, which is based on the exchange of roles.
What does this activity consist of?
Pilar carried out two activities that helped the couple enhance their empathy in the couple. The first consisted of pitch a tent which symbolically represented his home, reversing roles In this way, each one would highlight those behaviors that bother the other at the same time that they would see themselves reflected in their colleagues.
The second activity was more physical. Pilar Cebrián explained to them that the reproaches that are thrown hurt the other person, so the best thing was to stage it. That’s why they started a balloon launch recriminating those aspects of the couple that they don’t quite like.
After both activities, they were both more aware that their actions affected their partners.
Improve empathy, key to understanding why our partner acts
All actions have a trigger and many times, as a couple, we focus on the consequences and not on the Causes of such behaviors. Improving empathy, as highlighted Pilar Cebrian the relationship can be improved.