Jealousy is a relatively natural emotion that appears due to the fear of losing the person you love. Therefore, it is normal that on some occasions, in this case your boyfriend, may feel jealous from time to time. The bad and dangerous thing comes when he experiences them all the time in an intense way to the point of trying to limit you and not letting you lead a normal life.
As we well know, excessive jealousy can cause the relationship to deteriorate little by little and both parties are affected since not only the victim of unbridled jealousy suffers but also the excessively jealous person. This is why in this PsychologyFor article:what to do if my boyfriend is very jealous ? We are going to give you a series of tips that will help you know how to handle this situation in a better way.
Next, we are going to mention the main characteristics of highly jealous people focused on relationships.
They exercise control over the couple. They try to keep you under control all the time, which is why they are always aware of what you do at all times, who you interact with, they are aware of everything you do on your social networks and they even put pressure on you to review them or review everything you have on your phone.
Handling. They are people who tend to use emotional blackmail a lot as a means to manipulate you so that you end up doing what they want. Generally they will want to manipulate you so that you do not interact with certain people or that you do not do certain actions because otherwise they will become the offended and affected ones.
Prohibitions. They tend to prohibit the couple from certain things, such as interacting with people of the other sex, going out with their friends, spending time with their family, even doing certain activities simply because they are not to their liking.
Emotional dependence. They are extremely independent so they are always seeking the approval of others and feel a great need to be with their partner caused by the great fear they have of being abandoned.
Low self-esteem. They are people who lack self-love and who deep down do not feel worthy of receiving the love and affection of another person sincerely.
They explode easily. They tend to be quite emotionally reactive due to their great emotional imbalance, so for the slightest situation they can have overwhelming reactions such as hitting, screaming, crying, experiencing great anxiety and sadness.
What should I do if my boyfriend is very jealous? 4 tips
If you still have doubts about what to do if your boyfriend is very jealous, it is recommended that you follow these steps:
Talk to your partner. The first thing you should do is talk directly to your boyfriend , tell him in an assertive and calm way the way he is acting towards you and the way those attitudes are making you feel. Try to talk to him clearly and sincerely, ask him to explain his reasons for acting this way and resolve together any misunderstandings that may have arisen.
Set your own limits. In every type of relationship there are limits that must be respected and you must be clear about what they are. After having done so, it is necessary that you let your partner know and clarify that they must respect them since it is part of the love and respect that must exist in the couple.
Show him that he can trust. Tell him and above all let him know through your actions how much he can trust you and that he really has no reason to feel jealous since you love him and no one else.
Let him know how much you love him. You don’t have to show him absolutely all the time how much you love him and that you care, however it’s not about ignoring him either. The important thing is that there is a balance and for this it is necessary that you always remember him either through your actions, some detail or comment how much you love him and how important he is to you. In this way, he will feel more loved and valued and the trust he has in you will increase.
Jealous boyfriend: what to do
People who feel jealous are afraid that they could be replaced by another, so they begin to generate a certain emotional discomfort sometimes becoming pathological when not managed appropriately and when jealousy is experienced excessively.
Reflect on the situation. There are situations above all where jealousy has been so exaggerated and overflowing that over time it has destroyed all or almost the entire relationship. Therefore, it is necessary that if you intend to continue with the relationship, you are aware of your feelings at this time and that you think first of yourself and your well-being. On many occasions you have already tried by all means to improve the situation and it has not been possible, so make sure that the best decision for you is to continue with the relationship because if it is not the best thing you could do is break up. with her even if it hurts at first.
Couple therapy. If both of you have been fighting against those for a long time extreme jealousy and trying to move their relationship forward but feel that they have not achieved it alone, it is recommended that they receive couples therapy to save the relationship. The goal of therapy will of course be to help the jealous person feel better about themselves and learn to trust their partner. They will also be given tools so that both can solve their problems in the healthiest and most assertive way.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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