Why Is It Important That You Take Charge Of Your Emotions?
Become aware of your emotions why they are there, what they want to tell you and how they affect your relationships, is the pillar to begin to regulate your emotions and get out of the “emotional roller coaster”.
In this sense, the emotional responsibility constitutes a key concept.
Emotional responsibility is about assume the power you have in how you feel things, how you express them, and consequently, in how you act For that you will need to first begin your journey of personal growth by understanding why you feel that way.
Let’s start by understanding that it is the same to blame others (whether situations or people) for your discomfort, as it is to give others the power of your well-being. By taking responsibility for your emotions you can find that balance in your daily life, without feeling helpless in the face of what happens to you , knowing what is in your power to be better, resist or overcome something. Decide how you manage your emotions and how to respond to life’s vicissitudes.
Yes, you are right, many times you will have reasons to feel bad and these will possibly make you feel that you have no control over how you feel. Your partner may not stop looking for you to argue, your boss may stress you out, or not having money may lead you to a situation of agony, or the pain of a loss may give you no quarter.
Behind statements like “each person takes things in a different way” or “change your way of thinking so that other things happen to you”, what there is is a truth, which is that you have a lot of room to act differently
There are and will be things that can affect you and be like a hurricane for you, but after desperation, pain and helplessness, even after hitting rock bottom. At this point there is only one direction for you, to go up, since At some point you become tired of being carried away by the current ,and right there begins being prepared to re-emerge from emotional responsibility.
Whatever you are going through, there is always a part that depends on you to feel better. Now assume that there is power in you and that you are capable, even if you don’t feel it, to fight for yourself and your happiness.
Looking inside you
Understanding why you feel this way is like undoing a knot in your back that has been calcified for a long time from not treating it or taking care of it; It only leaves you with a trace of pain, but it is still there bothering you and limiting or determining your way of feeling and acting.
If you are used to listening to yourself, it will be easy for you to look inside yourself, into your story For example, knowing that you are sensitive to criticism allows you not to get carried away because your boss makes you feel worthless, and to know that even if you feel it, it is not like that, because he is correcting a specific fact and even if your whole psyche is upset with that well-known feeling of worthlessness, you know that this is not the case because you have been listening to him for a long time and you know that he talks about your past stories and how they made you feel and not about your present.
Instead, someone who is not used to listening to themselves in that same situation will easily become vulnerable She will feel that the boss makes her feel worthless and will take two paths, and both have to do with where we put the focus.
The focus on oneself
The person will believe it as a confirmed truth. Time and time again they make you feel useless, and it will definitely be because they are right and there is nothing you do right. He will try to correct himself and do everything very well You will end up becoming demotivated in the long term, since no matter how hard you try, you do not receive the recognition you deserve, the world does not give you a sample of your great worth.
The focus towards the outside
The person ends up blaming others , surely criticizing the boss and talking about how difficult he makes life, and that he is fed up and feels undervalued. He will continue to feel bad, but he will not do anything to correct it. In the short term this person will stop trying because by not realizing the intermediate point of the situation he does not feel that there is any point in doing well.
By taking responsibility I am assuming control
As we have seen, If you listen to yourself, you begin to understand yourself, and that allows you to take control Take control of how you feel and why without constantly falling into projecting your control outside or into the helplessness of feeling like you have no power over the situation. You project onto others or situations by making them absolutely responsible for how they make you feel, and you also take charge of the feelings of others as if you had a magic wand to save or solve the suffering of others. Each one accepts his own while accepting his power to change how this emotional burden affects him.
According to a study carried out in the department of cognitive neuroscience at College London, To improve your psychological health you must shape adequate emotional responsibility to be able to take control of the things that happen to you and not feel adrift.
It is time to learn that saying “you make me angry” or “I can’t do anything about this situation” is a dead end. Manage your feelings from joy to anger; By taking responsibility for your part you open the way to listening to yourself, because the answers and the power are in you and in your ability to decide to act differently.
