How Do You Notice The Chemistry Between Two People?
Human beings are social and gregarious beings who throughout history have built bonds with their peers in order to survive. The need to contact others and relate is something innate to us.
But these interactions are not always the same: sometimes we can feel more similar, identified or compatible with a group or person than with others.
Sometimes we meet someone with whom we feel deeply connected, whose presence attracts us and generates well-being, excitement and joy. And although it may sometimes be difficult for us to see, there are a series of elements that can give us clues as to whether this chemistry exists or not. How do you notice the chemistry between two people? Let’s see it.
Before starting to evaluate different signs that can indicate the existence of chemistry or mutual attraction, it may be useful to briefly mention the meaning of the concept to which we are referring.
The consideration of chemistry between two people is carried out between both, a series of behavioral and physical/physiological manifestations can be observed that show the existence of a deep affinity between both
These manifestations, visible in the way we interact, occur unconsciously or semi-consciously. That is, they are not the product of voluntary manipulation by any of those involved. Besides, For chemistry to exist between two, it must be bidirectional: the opposite would be mere attraction of one towards the other.
The origin of this mutual affinity has been the subject of discussion since ancient times, but among the various explanations that have been offered in this regard we can find both biological and environmental factors.
For example, some authors propose that chemistry is the product of an identification with the other derived from the observation of personality and behavior patterns which coincide or are similar to what we have learned throughout life that generates well-being and happiness. .
This coincidence predisposes us positively towards the other person, something that in turn can make it easier for the same thing to happen to it. To this we must add the existence of attraction on an emotional and/or physical level. Various neurotransmitters and brain nuclei participate in this feeling of proximity and interest, highlighting the role of dopamine, phenylethylamine or norepinephrine. The influence of pheromones in this process has also been proposed.
It should be noted that although it is a concept that generally It is mainly used when talking about relationships or emotional-sexual attraction, the idea of the existence of chemistry between people is not limited to this area. In fact, we can talk about the existence of chemistry with friends, family or even in the workplace.
Signs of this compatibility between people
Below we will see a series of aspects to take into account that can serve as indications of the existence of attraction and chemistry between two people, or by one of them towards the other. It must be taken into account that we are talking about signs, not a clear and univocal sign of attraction.
Likewise, said attraction does not have to be only or may not even include physical or sexual attraction.
Finally, the signs that we are going to refer to are going to be behaviors or physical changes that can be observed regardless of the sex of said people; They are valid for both men and women
1. Look focused on the other
When there is chemistry between two people, one of the clearest signs of existing interest can be seen in the looks of both.
Specifically, in the time spent looking at the other. Generally, when you feel attraction towards another person, you tend to look (not necessarily into the eyes) for a large proportion of time at said person, compared to the attention given to the rest
It is relatively easy to observe, especially in situations where you are in a group.
2. Pupil dilation
Attraction generates that unconsciously our pupils dilate in such a way that all possible light enters the interior of the eye, so that we can observe the other in more detail.
3. Search for the other
A sign of the existence of chemistry between two people is the fact that they tend to look for each other, that is, even at an unconscious level they seek contact or encounter with the other person. This is more revealing if frequent encounters occur between two people who live in very different places.
Another sign is found in the fact that two people who feel mutual attraction will tend to smile constantly in a natural way, as reflection of the sensations of well-being implied by the presence of the other person
Likewise, it is common that if there is interest between two people, the sense of humor is higher and there is a tendency to laugh easily at any positive or humorous comment.
5. Search for shared interests
Among the behavioral signs that reveal the existence of interest and chemistry between two people is the presence and/or pursuit of multiple shared interests. In this sense, a mutual interest is observed in knowing the opinion and tastes of the other, even without a specific purpose. Furthermore, if common elements are found, they can be used to encourage interaction
6. Long conversations
When there is chemistry between two people, it is common that the conversation with the other person can last indefinitely, and can even there is a feeling of losing track of time
At this point, however, it must be taken into account that shy people may be afraid to prolong the conversation and be quite brief, without necessarily causing a lack of interest (in fact, precisely because of this it may be more difficult for them).
Now, it is possible that what arouses interest is the topic of conversation and not the person itself, so this fact must be taken into account and not jump to hasty conclusions.
7. Physical distance
Another factor that can indicate the presence of attraction or chemistry between two people is the distance that separates them.
It is common for two people attracted to each other to tend to get closer and reduce the distance between them. In fact, in many cases both people can enter the personal space (the distance that we usually keep with others and that if someone crosses it can cause discomfort) of the other without it being invasive.
8. Direct physical contact
We live in a society where physical contact is not as frequent as it might seem. In general, and except when greeting each other, we do not usually touch other people unless they are very close to us. However, when there is attraction or chemistry It is common that there may be spontaneous physical contact such as touching or rubbing the arm, face, back or hands.
Another indication of attraction between two people is found in the orientation of their feet. It is common for us to unconsciously point one or both feet in the direction of the person who arouses our interest.
10. Body orientation
Likewise, it is common that we tend to orient our body in such a way that both people are facing each other, with their shoulders and torso aligned with those of the other person. This does not imply mutual chemistry per se since it can happen due to numerous factors, but if both people seek to be face to face could be an indication
11. Imitation
When there is chemistry between two people, they usually imitate, at an unconscious level, the behaviors of the other. We copy or acquire habits or actions, but also aspects such as modulating the tone of voice to adjust it to that of the other, gestures, ways of speaking and even moving (for example we imitate the pace at which the other walks).
12. Complicity and trust
Another aspect that tells us about the existence of chemistry between two people is the existence of complicity and ease of trusting the other. It is common that when faced with a person with whom we have chemistry, we unconsciously tend to be able to trust them with more things than the rest. In the same way, it is easier for us to feel understood by the other
13. Empathy
Deeply linked to the previous point, it is common that when there is mutual interest and chemistry there is greater ease in trying to understand the thoughts, opinions and emotions of the other, in addition to being relatively simpler. put on his place and imagine what may be going through his mind.
This fact is relevant when comparing the one that exists with that person with the one that one normally has with the majority of people.
14. Disposition towards the other
Finally, it is common for two people who are attracted to each other to also greatly increase their disposition toward each other. We are more neat and generous and we dedicate more time and effort to spending time and/or doing acts that please or help the person we are interested in.
