When we hear about healthy eating, we often think about eating beneficial foods to take care of our physical health. But… do we think about the social food we are eating every day? Are we surrounding ourselves with the right people from whom we also feed?
Just as we worry about taking care of our diet and nutrition to have good physical health, we have to think about another fundamental food from which we nourish ourselves without being too aware: people.
In the same way that there are foods that harm our health and others that are beneficial and our diet should be based on their consumption, the same happens with human beings. These are part of the food we consume daily, so our “social diet” or “social diet” must be based on surround ourselves with those who make a real contribution to us
Take the next step and think about the five people you spend the most time with. As they are? Do you think there is something of them in you? Reflect on who on that list adds to your life, who subtracts or simply leaves you as is; about who will help you achieve the next level you want to achieve. Do we want people to push us up or down?
If what you want is to achieve your goals, it will be essential to surround yourself with individuals who, in some way, help you pursue those goals, and stay away from those that in no way add to you or, much worse, subtract from you when it comes to achieving your goals. Would someone who wants to overcome her drinking problem be able to do so if her best friends had the same problem?
Every human being who passes through our lives in a more or less significant way It leaves a kind of mark on us. Therefore, try to surround yourself with people who are a role model for you, who already have what you want to achieve. If what you want is to be a more ambitious person who strives to achieve your goals, surround yourself with those who have already achieved or are achieving what they set out to do one day.
If what you want is to be a better person, surround yourself with those who do good. If what you want is to adopt a more optimistic attitude towards life, surround yourself with positive people Artists surround themselves with artists, entrepreneurs with entrepreneurs, drinkers with drinkers…
The potential of the people around us: social eating
People can raise concerns, be a driver of change, teach us and make us grow. Or, on the contrary, influence us negatively and suck our energy. It is up to us to choose the people we surround ourselves with and decide if we have to make big or small modifications in our social life: if we have to dedicate more time to those who add value and less to those who do not or, if that were the case, stay away from those toxic people who take away our potential
Whether what we want is to dedicate more time to individuals in our social circle or if we want to get closer to those who can help us achieve what we want, the key is to show a sincere interest in the lives of others. To do this, you will have to talk to them regularly so that the relationship becomes stronger.
To improve your social skills, you will have to initially take into account certain key points:
Let’s not forget self-esteem
In addition to the above, to know how to surround yourself well and consciously choose your social circle, you must first learn to be happy with yourself. If you don’t think about yourself and respect yourself, you will hardly be able to build healthy relationships, because You will be looking in others for what you lack in a non-adaptive way When, on the contrary, you know that your happiness does not depend on others, you become more aware of which relationships contribute to you and which do not, and you will develop the ability to better choose the environment from which you nourish yourself.
Therefore, you must learn to gain confidence in yourself and in the decisions you make, to accept yourself as you are and, when there is something you want to change, work on your own personal development with respect. Ultimately, you will have to learn to love yourself. Your self-esteem, inner strength and joy will be good allies to be a more attractive person and you will have an easier time getting closer to whoever you want.
To a greater or lesser extent, whether we like it more or less, that people influence us is a fact, whether positively or negatively. We are social beings, and as such, we learn through vicarious (or observational) learning, that is, we learn by observing what others do; and we do it since we were little. The cognitive process that comes into play is the projection of oneself onto the actions of the other.
Don’t let chance decide for you the social circle you surround yourself with. You be responsible for choosing who you are going to feed on and who you are not. Stay away from toxic people who suck your energy and surround yourself with those who water and make the seeds you sow grow. Of people who even plant other seeds in your own path so that new shoots grow.
