How To Resolve A Conflict Through Dialogue

In order to resolve any kind of conflict it is It is essential to opt for dialogue In fact, even our proverb has an expression that mentions this decisive ability: “People understand each other by speaking.” There is no more effective and constructive tool than engaging in a serene and calm conversation to solve any type of problem that may have arisen between two people (or more).

So why is it so difficult for us to use this technique when we have a problem? Basically because we let ourselves be carried away by emotions, because of anger, anger or pride, and these feelings prevent us from carrying out a rational and civilized conversation with the person with whom we have become angry. However, it is essential to learn to control emotions and prevent them from controlling ourselves. And being able to dialogue and respect the turn of words is the beginning of much healthier and more beneficial relationships. In this other article we give you 8 techniques to not get so angry and that will help you better control your attacks.

The bases to resolve conflicts with the dialogue are:

• Active listening: it is not only about expressing your opinion but, above all, about listening to and understanding that of the other person
• I respect: you have to respect the other person’s point of view and not attack it. He feels this way and, therefore, you have to listen to him and respect his feelings and thoughts.
• Try to understand him: It is important that you both try to understand each other, it is not only about talking and listening but, above all, that there is understanding on both sides
• The importance of sincerity: If while you are talking you are not honest with each other, the conversation will be of no use and the situation will not be resolved. Don’t be afraid and really express what you feel

It is inevitable that, in our daily lives, there are conflicts. For this reason, instead of solving them by shouting or arguing uncontrollably, we have to learn to manage them in a proactive and positive way. A conflict can help us improve as people and the relationship can also improve.

In this other article we help you learn to argue with your partner because, normally, it is at the level of our life where there are the most conflicts.

If you want to know how to resolve a conflict through dialogue, it is important that you take into account a series of tips that will help you put end the dispute in a constructive and positive way Below, we give you the tricks that you have to keep in mind to be able to solve this problem and recover your relationship in a healthy and optimal way.

Speak and listen: respect the turn to speak

In a dialogue there are two people who have to speak and exchange feelings and points of view. Many times, we become overwhelmed with emotions and begin to “vomit” everything we have inside without taking into account that in front of us we have another person affected by the same issue. Therefore, it is not about emptying yourself but simply about expressing yourself and also listening to and understanding the other point of view. Respect the turn to speak, let the other person express themselves and speak as they need and, thus, you will be able to understand each other.

A quiet and relaxed place

The environment in which you have the conversation has to be prone to dialogue and understanding. In the same way, the attitude of the two involved also has to be ideal to talk and solve the problem. Therefore, avoid bringing up the topic while you are cooking or working. Wait until you are relaxed and both of you are ready to talk and resolve the conflict. In the same way that two do not argue if one does not want to, two people do not make peace if one does not want to.

Choose the right moment

If you want to talk to your partner, your child, your friend, etc., it is important that you choose the right time to do it. We have to have a little psychology and keep in mind that not all times are good to face a conflict. Ideally, that person is relaxed or, you can also tell him/her that you have to talk to him/her and decide a time of the day or week to talk about it.

Control anger

To resolve a conflict through dialogue, it is important to use the most rational part in the conversation and leave aside the emotional part. We should not let ourselves be carried away by anger, sadness, crying, etc., but we have to be decisive and find a solution to the problem. Managing emotions and controlling them is essential so that the conversation does not turn into an argument and reproaches begin to surface. Therefore, if at any point during the conversation you see that you are getting more nervous than normal, take a deep breath and try to keep a cool mind. Anger will not lead you to a successful outcome and what you have to do is solve the problem rationally.

Reach a conclusion

Many times, when we start to talk and express our feelings, we may find that, in the end, we end up talking about everything except what is really happening to us. It is common to go around the bush and start talking about other related things, but we recommend that you be very aware of whether that is happening and, if so, get the conversation back on track. Now you are talking about a specific issue and, that issue, you have to solve it. Later and on another occasion you will deal with everything else that is appearing but, now, you have to be decisive and reach an agreement or a conclusion about the conflict. Only then can we say that it has been completely resolved.

Now that you know the techniques and advice to be able to resolve a conflict through dialogue, it is important that we remember why this is the best method to solve the problems in our lives. Here we discover some of the reasons why we have to learn to speak without arguing:

• The only tool for understanding: Many times, in our daily lives, communication can fail. It is possible that misunderstandings arise, that we make mistakes, or that we hurt someone unintentionally. In any of these circumstances, with dialogue you can understand each other, understand each other and solve the problem that has occurred. It is the only way that exists that allows us to understand each other better and learn to respect the people we care about more.
• It helps us better understand: By actively conversing with another person what we achieve is to better understand the world in which we live and the people we have next to us. It is an essential tool to better understand our universe and be able to live in a balanced and stable way with everything that surrounds us.
• Ideal for preventing conflicts: If we talk and solve our problems, we avoid screaming, crying and very unpleasant situations. Through dialogue we can avoid making the problem bigger and solve it taking into account the feelings of the other. An ideal way to build healthier relationships, whatever type they may be (family, friends, couple, etc.).
• It allows us to solve the problem: and, obviously, by speaking we manage to understand the other’s point of view and for him to also understand us. Starting from this point of empathy and respect for each other, agreements and pacts can be reached to achieve a much more optimal coexistence that includes both parties involved.

This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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