Freedom scares us because we believe that it is lost by giving it, and it is the opposite, it is gained because no one is with you but wants to be. the other will always have his own decision.
I have always preferred the word relationship to that of a couple. I will explain it and I hope it makes sense from the pure logic of life. Couples, if we understand them from simple mathematics, are two people, and if we go further, they can be even or odd, where they would be equal people or different people, but let’s go even further, that only in the end do we understand that they are two people. That at a certain point in their life they react individually and begin to feel like they want to spend more time with another person. And that initial reaction is transformed into a relationship, where they relate to work together, to go out together, to recognize themselves in each of those relationships with the other.
Starting a relationship of equals , which will have that concept of a couple only at the beginning where they see if they are the same or different because the moment they start everything, they only become a relationship. Knowledge continues from all the moments in which it is related, it continues in a continuous relationship on a day-to-day basis, because what was valid yesterday may be worth it today if I am not attentive to her reaction it may change.
And that made us begin to feel that desire to relationship with her , the fact that something about her caught our attention, was and that magic emerged, wanting to know her more and know who she really was and who is behind that person that I see. And how that moment materializes in relating, in trying to get to know her from all points of view, from her own definitions of who she is, from her own values, from how she behaves with me, and from how being with her makes me feel. This desire to continue knowing and relating everything I see, what I hear and, most importantly, what I feel, is nourished, but without the need to modify anything, letting it continue to be itself, to truly know who you are, all of them. your forms, from your vision and from what I am acquiring when relating to you.
Relationships are more alive, they are in continuous movement, thank God, because that keeps us in a relationship of equals, wanting to continue together. Putting all the senses daily into relate appropriately and from love with the other, where everything is kept alive in the same process of living it, and above all feeling it.
It must always be alive because if it stops moving it is headed for death. You stop relating and the relationship itself is diluted. From to relate and the interaction disappears faster than anything created in that time. If we fall asleep and are not attentive and take it for granted that we have already done everything in one day, and we have to rest, everything is over, nothing is eternal beyond us keeping it alive.
Therefore it is better to understand that we are two relating in an endless continuum that is alive. A clear example every day. We both give ourselves one more day of relating, and that day begins with a good morning with joy, because you are still here after the night, because you still want to relate to me one more day, because that is the only sure thing I have for the rest, no It depends more than that we make the most of that day and that every second we are together we are united, giving our best and doing our best.
It may seem exhausting to spend all day at the best of oneself for another, but because not seeing it as motivating, being improving every day thanks to another, it can be motivating to feel that we are not alone and that our existence can be the sum of great things. moments of happiness and that they can be achieved alone, but they are also enjoyed in the moment that their own happiness is also can make you happy to another within that shared and own magical moment.
Bad habits in a couple
Relating is more than living as a couple, relating in live in relationship with you and with her. It is knowing and feeling that there is something greater created by two that will make us better and that the time it lasts must and will be wonderful for both you and the other.
But we must be clear about one principle in all this. He control does not exist There is no possibility of controlling the tomorrow of our own life, I don’t know what will happen to me tomorrow in my life that will make it more enriching, I must let it happen. In the relationship it is the same. Controlling everything is absurd, telling others what they should do when we don’t even know about ourselves is meaningless. Let us simply let it happen, only that our steps lead us to love and that it is from that love that security and not control is born.
As much as you want to control something, you’re just in the background. looking forward to watching him so as not to lose sight of it, and that creates the insecurity of losing it. If we act from the freedom to tell another, be with me for as long as they want, do with me what you want, feel with me what you want, and continue being you, making yourself in this process, the internal freedom and the desire to continue can be older, because deep down the other does not lose, only adds.
I will be with him to experience something when I want, I will look for it when you need it, I will find it when I want it, I will feel when I decide to feel it, I am free within a relationship of two. and that freedom Also, just as it made me enter the relationship, it gives me the joy of deciding and if at any time, my own freedom is in danger, I can desist from continuing without prejudice to harming the life of the other. I am free and they respect my freedom even though I am part of something bigger than me.
You can feel from that freedom that nothing will happen if I don’t want it, that everything that happens will be because I decide it, that if I want space I will have it, that if I want love, I will have it, that if I want sex I will have it, and that they love me. from what I am, not from what they control and want me to be. The self-esteem valuing me will be intact, he loves me for who I am and who I am at every moment and nothing more. Continuing to be who I am improved is enough to give my best to others. Taking care of myself physically and being good with myself makes the beneficiary of that own joy also feel the same, desire and admiration for me.
Taking care of yourself is not for others only, it is taking care of yourself is for yourself Not getting lost in the eyes of others without seeing your own is essential. Wanting to be liked in the relationship is, deep down, liking yourself to be and feel your own.
When the other suggests something about your appearance, or your being, they are only guiding you to improve yourself, and you are free to take that idea that they see in you and transform it into something that improves you, for you. For example, I like that or the other hairstyle better for the shape of your face, or with these words they understand you better, the rest are things that the other person sees in you that can be improved and since they care about you, they suggest it to you so that from your freedom you decide to do it and obtain your own reward. Feel better about yourself and be a better you every day.
Life is not about winners or losers, it is about enjoying every moment of the game. road process being honest with yourself and giving the best of yourself in service and love to others, and who better than that person who makes you feel alive every moment of your life and in every moment of your journey together.
If I eat individual regardless of relationship , I can’t be a better person with that change, what sense does it all make? I must give my best to also demonstrate to myself that by doing so I get the best in myself and I freely give the other my best version, which can always be improved with the eyes of her love for me. Everything from love can only have one possible path, two being better being the simple sum of two versions at their best giving everything.
Enjoy the feeling that you give your best without expecting anything in return, and that the only thing you get is your own peace, and feeling good in every moment giving love to someone who is not yourself. Giving is always stronger than receiving and giving it without further ado, without explanations, without rewards, without merits from others, just giving it and giving it in the now of each moment and each instant without further ado, being free and choosing to give love to another without them asking, just giving it for you.
