As we all know, coexistence is based on a series of rules that consist of all members complying with to organize ourselves as a team.
Given the current world situation imposed by the responsible organizations, Coexistence in quarantine leads to making a new contract in which it is necessary to establish new norms, and with which each of the members commits to fulfilling a role, all so that we can achieve the joint objectives of the team.
¿How is this achieved in the case of families with adolescent children? who tend to highly value their autonomy?
The first thing is to identify the problems. Coexistence in quarantine implies modifying the usual routine that each of the members maintained and this tests us to identify the best way to face this psychological and emotional challenge.
There are many variables that can affect how we decide to face this challenge, such as physical space, financial resources, family members, etc. All of them have their impact on our decision, but The goal is the same for everyone: overcome fear
In summary, the family is a system that is supported by the different members, and any change in routine implies a destructuring, which could lead to a possible crisis situation. Therefore, it is essential to define new guidelines, norms, roles, and limits, to prevent this unforeseen crisis situation from having a negative impact on our coexistence
For this, it is essential to be as transparent and sincere as possible among all team members, especially with children who are the most vulnerable in this confinement situation.
Understanding the adolescent
According to the WHO, adolescence is the period of human development that arises after childhood and before adulthood, between 10 and 19 years of age. It is one of the most important transition stages in human life, and It is characterized by an accelerated rate of growth and change, surpassed only by that experienced by infants
This phase of growth and development is conditioned by various biological processes. The beginning of puberty marks the passage from childhood to adolescence.
It is important to be able to understand adolescents, to know how they feel about the current situation in which we are living. At this stage of life, it is very important to socialize, go out, interact with your friends, have privacy Given the pandemic situation, all this is canceled and leads to an increase in discomfort and frustration, and therefore to family arguments at home.
Regarding adolescents, there is significant frustration, since during these days they cannot see their friends. That’s why, It is important as parents to be able to be more flexible with them about the time dedicated to social networks and video calls in privacy, give them that space behind closed doors, since this is the only way they have to communicate with their peers. It is essential to be able to motivate them from their creativity to interact with their links.
For many adolescents, the most painful crisis is the activities suspended due to the pandemic: sports, graduations, outings, trips, etc. It is essential that they have a space to be heard, to share their feelings and emotions without being judged, since in these moments is when we can express the emotions we are feeling, without them trapping us, and even more so at this moment in life. which is adolescence, in which young people are an explosion of emotions in themselves.
To do?
From PSiCOBAi, we propose the following recommendations.
1. Respect your privacy
Teenagers should have a moment of privacy d, whether to connect with their friends as well as connect with themselves.
2. Make them understand
At this stage of life they tend not to clearly see abstract situations of danger, which is why it is important to be able to speak with them honestly and explain to them with clear words and examples what the Pandemic in which we are living means.
3. Create a climate of free expression
It is very important that adolescents can express themselves without being judged, since if we keep the sensations of how we are feeling, this will generate anguish.
4. Create regularity
You have to maintain regular schedules and routine but also time for disconnection and free time.
5. Provide emotional support
You have to be able to help manage the situation of frustration because of what they are going through being able to give them new tools to connect with other peers.
Coexistence can help us detect virtues, strengths, and fears that we did not know existed before.
7. Creativity
It would be normal for us to find ourselves facing a situation of boredom, but we should not worry, since In this situation, dormant creativity usually appears in us which will help us get through this quarantine in a more harmonious way
8. Be careful with expectations
It is important to lower our level of expectation in the face of confinement, and focus on what is really worth it Taking care of ourselves also means taking care of our family and our peers.
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