Happiness is a recurring theme in people’s daily lives. Many think that they should search by finding new places and new people, and they can spend a lot of time doing so…
The questions we should ask ourselves would be: Where is happiness really? Where should I direct my life to find it? Maybe it is closer than we think, where we least imagine it.
In this article we will see some useful indications to stop looking in other places for what is in ourselves. In fact, we will talk about how to be happy with yourself.
Happiness can be understood in several ways; It is a subjective issue, and it depends largely on each of us, on the way we understand the concept of happiness.
So how to be happy with yourself? We can agree that happiness comes when we carry out activities that generate a feeling of gratification or when we obtain some reward (material or not).
Sharing moments with our loved ones, practicing our favorite sport, listening to a symphony, are things that can generate a feeling of indescribable happiness. This is because these actions cause our brain to secrete some substances responsible for giving us those sensations, the so-called happiness hormones (endorphin, serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin).
When we experience the happiness that these activities generate in us our reward system is activated so that we seek more of that happiness through the same activities. Thus, it is clear that happiness depends largely on each person’s particular reward system, on how we have “configured” it.
Tips to be happy with yourself
Let’s now look at some recommendations to live a full and happy life, without needing to be surrounded by material things or being the most popular in the group (elements that are beyond our control).
1. Know what motivates you
When we recognize what our true desires are, we are less likely to get caught up in the task of looking for happiness in the wrong places. It is important to take time to meditate on what we really want to invest our time in. Achieving this involves delving into the skills of self-knowledge and knowing how to recognize not only what makes us feel good at the moment, but what excites us and gives us strength when undertaking personal or professional projects.
2. Set your goals calmly
This means that you should be careful with the anxiety of reaching your goals too quickly. Remember that good things don’t always come quickly, and the best thing will be that you learn to enjoy the road. That way you will be much happier as you get things done.
3. Love yourself
Affection is a source of natural happiness, and sometimes we spend too much time looking for it in other people. The sooner we realize that we are important in our lives, the closer we will be to being happy. Thus you have to cultivate good self-esteem.
There is no need to receive praise and affection from many people when you know your worth and learn to appreciate yourself for it. To achieve this, we must be able to see not only our failures and imperfections, but also what we are achieving.
4. Find happiness in what depends on you and not so much on the rest
As we have already mentioned before, you don’t need to look for happiness elsewhere. If you organize your life in the right way, you will be able to make it there, within you; You just have to focus on seeing it. Many times it is more difficult for us to see the things that are in front of our eyes, or in this case behind them…
Our happiness lies in ourselves, in the things we like, in the enjoy the good moments focused on the here and now avoiding the anxiety of thinking about the future or the melancholy of thinking about the past.
Let’s be happy living in the present and avoiding generating irrational obsessions. If you manage your thoughts, you will manage your happiness.
5. Look for your dreams
There is a saying that goes like this: “Tie your life to a dream, and you will be happy.” Dreams are projects that depend largely on ourselves and the desire we have to fulfill them.
The more we focus on the things we can do on our own and avoid placing our happiness in the hands of third parties, the more comfortable we will be with ourselves. Ideally, your happiness depends mainly on you it is essential that you be clear about it.
6. Let the last thought of the day be positive
Before you go to sleep each night, be sure to think about at least three positive events from your day. This habit will help us configure our mind and make it tend to give relevance to the good things over the bad
At first you will do it voluntarily, but later seeing things from the positive will become an intrinsic part of your personality. In addition, it can be a useful strategy to fall asleep more easily, by not focusing on what is worrying you.
7. Make sure your goals are achievable
This point is of great importance for our happiness, and if we set goals that are simply unrealizable, then we are signing a sentence for a life of stress and anguish.
The ideal will always be that before defining our goals we make an objective evaluation of their feasibility, that way we will be more likely to be able to do them and frustration will be less likely. We must strike a balance between what means leaving our comfort zone and what is beyond our abilities or options accessible with our resources.
