¿What happens to us when the feeling of guilt becomes present in our lives generating anguish and anxiety?
The sensation of feeling guilty generates an emotionally uncomfortable and possibly painful state with a certain discomfort in the person who goes through it, accompanied by anguish due to feeling that a certain belief that was installed in the first years of life is not being fulfilled, and an interpretation surely outdated morality.
Let’s analyze this feeling of guilt in a deeper way to understand where it comes from and how it settles in the person, generating suffering.
Throughout my professional work in the office, I have frequently observed this feeling, being identifiable in patients with certain burdens of anguish, which will need to be elaborated to begin the process that will lead the patient towards their desire and lightness.
Guilt is an emotion that can be registered consciously or not in the person who suffers from it remaining internally in the being and generating discomfort that prevents him from acting according to his own desire.
This feeling generally has its origin in the childhood where the formation of a psychic structure that will accompany adult life begins.
There, in the first years of life, with the education received from parents or trainers, certain mandates and beliefs will be installed, which, if not reviewed later, in adulthood, could generate anguish and discomfort due to feeling disagreement with them or be these outdated.
The subject struggles with these beliefs when socialization with external ties begins those who in turn will have their own beliefs.
As growth and maturation develop, people choose situations or relationships different from those with which we have grown up, and it is from this different choice that this feeling of guilt appears, since the internal battle is generated when the mind does not He knows whether to follow his desires and concerns or continue with those that were established by his educators.
How does guilt arise?
The feeling of guilt appears when it is interpreted that one would not be complying with what was established and received in those first years, wishing to take a different position, manifesting an anguish that disables action and choosing what to do.
This feeling of guilt and the aforementioned emotions that accompany it are associated with certain frustrations in the face of the inability that the person feels when trying to do what they want.
This is a recurring theme within the office environment, when an attempt is made to get the patient to consciously register the internal struggle that he is expressing in his speech between what he must do to continue with received mandates and what he wants to do out of his own desire.
To do
How do you work to get rid of these feelings of guilt associated with anguish and anxieties?
The only possibility of working on this feeling of guilt is by carrying out a therapeutic treatment, where the reception of the patient’s words will be objective, neutral and without affection on the part of the therapist. thus making conscious what is repressed and that generates anxiety
We work with discourse as the only engine for registering what the patient wants, which connects him with his feelings, with enjoyment, with what is pleasurable and with the permissions necessary to live.
Words are the means to be able to work on those mandates and beliefs that generate discomfort when doing what you want. Register and establish that it is viable and healthy to take a position different from the one you grew up with.
Giving up one’s own issues to please and support the position and desire of others may not be a healthy attitude, which start saying “no” or “yes” when each person feels that way It is necessary to avoid both physical and emotional symptoms and this relieves the anguish and anxieties that could paralyze.
Work with the patient therapeutically to elaborate and re-program from another perspective, his own perspective, that desire that inhabits him and that he sometimes does not know or cannot see clearly.
Knowing the conditioning and disabling mandates will be an interesting exercise to be able to break with them and know what you want, acting accordingly.
When it is registered that this anguish and feeling of guilt are installed by sustaining another’s desire that distances itself from one’s own, a process of relief and lightness begins, knowing that a different path can be taken and this is absolutely healthy.
I invite you to know what mandates and beliefs have limited your path in some sections and have generated discomfort; I also invite you to think about what places you would occupy today if these mandates and beliefs did not condition you. Give yourself the opportunity to discover yourself and thus be able to fulfill your desires and make them possible. You only have one life up to you to make it wonderful!
