Short review of the three main phases/factors found in the development of a couple and why Valentine’s Day is important.
If we want our relationship to work in the long term, we have to go through and overcome a series of phases so as not to end up signing a paper with a person next to us dressed in a black toga, and another person in front of us dressed in black with fists and a mallet. to tell us: “Congratulations, your marital status is now divorced.” In order not to reach the situation described above, we are going to see the different factors or phases that love is made up of and how to enhance them to last a long time with our partner. The phases of love They can be summarized in three.
It includes the time from the affirmative response “Do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend?” until approximately a year and a half into the relationship. The main characteristic of this stage is that our brain is flooded by a lot of hormones that will affect many parts of the brain such as the frontal, which is the part of the brain in charge of “being responsible” and makes us have a very high sexual desire, let’s look for any time to be with the couple, idealization of the couple occurs, and let’s do “love crazy things.” Are madness of love They will be of special importance in the following phases of the relationship since those crazy things will be remembered by the couple as something very good, positive and as proof of what was done for them and how important it is. her for your life.
This phase begins when the couple begins to live together under the same roof. The hormones and neurotransmitters of the first phase are now calmer and the relationship evolves towards “a special bond of emotional union.” During this phase, communication flows smoothly. Understanding and empathy towards the partner reaches one of the highest levels, trust in the partner is strengthened, giving them support in everything they need, the feeling of security and comfort with the partner increases, the game of the first phase of “I pay attention to you now and now I don’t pay attention to you anymore” becomes I am there yes, or if and whenever you need me. There will be a continued increase in self-disclosure and shared goals. Self-revelations and shared goals are like the cement that binds the relationship together, preventing the relationship from faltering and being able to withstand without breaking when the blows that life will deal are received.
3. Third phase or commitment phase
This phase also marital call It can be reached in two different ways. Either it is achieved through spectacular psychological or philosophical personal growth or it is achieved through any type of freely accepted wedding without any type of external condition (such as being pregnant, pressure from parents, wanting to leave the parental home). …). Commitment is wanting to maintain the relationship above almost any situation, problem or misfortune that could occur in the present or in the future, because it gives the couple a special character over any other person on the planet or outside it. This phase requires great maturity and not all couples can reach it. The commitment or decision to continue with the couple is the only important thing for a couple to remain together in the face of life’s adversities. Wanting to continue with the couple because the other person is recognized as someone special and that their presence and support generates enormous benefits for our general well-being.
Many couples forget all the details that they have in the first phase and that causes monotony, boredom and laziness to gradually settle in the relationship, causing the difficulties to decrease. self-disclosures and commitment The perfect thing would be for those details not to be diluted over time, but to be honest…
How many of the people who say that Valentine’s Day was created by the consumerist society, give something to their partner (even if it is a craft with hardly any economic cost) throughout the year outside of designated dates such as birthdays, Christmas or anniversary? I think we all know the answer… so for the sake of the 70% of couples, Long live Valentine’s Day!
